What does your husband/partner do when you do your own thing?

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Hi! My question is as simple as that: when you do your own thing, what does your partner/husband do at the same time?

For example, you do handicraft at home, read a book or do something at computer, do your manicure or beauty procedures, or plant flowers or read newspaper or watch your favourite tv show or whatever it is you are doing alone without your partner.
What is your husband doing at the same time? Especially if you live in a flat where there is not much to do (like perhaps gardening or house maintenance or similar things).

Goes to the gym (he gets twitchy if he doesn't have a daily visit)
Bike rides
Gardening
Cooking
Ipad for current events and sports
Reads

Right now he’s out on his mountain bike with his mates, I’m at home having a bit of chill time with my daughter. If he’s at home and I’m out doing something he will usually Potter around in the shed or do some gardening, or watch tv. We’re pretty good at doing our own thing and not getting under each other’s feet

He watches TV, reads stuff on his phone, cooks up his meals (he is into body building so meal preps for this) that sort of thing.

He is often cooking, which he loves, or out walking or cycling. He also spends a lot of time watching sport on TV or arguing about politics online.

Pottering round the house, doing house work, cooking, Golding washing etc, reading, working, plays computer game, plays with DC, plays with dogs, on his phone.

Why are you asking?
Only bc I had a problem when I was much younger in a relationship with a guy, who was rubbish about me doing my own thing!
He was in between jobs, but I had a job, and he was actually upset about me going out to work (waitressing) he said "what am I going to do while you're out at work all day?"
Every day he was on about it. Poor me, what's the point in having a girlfriend etc.

I ended up getting my manager to let him work during my shift one day washing dishes! Crazy. They paid it to my wages and he owed me money so I kept it :)

Anyway.
I just hope you don't have one of those types on your hands. You'll have my sympathies if you do.

He does his own thing, usually networking, keeping up with colleagues and socialising.
Watch tv, sometimes. He usually finds something work related to do, but he loves his work.

I don't live with my current partner. But my exes generally also did their own thing, whether it was watching tv, listening to music, or whatever. My main hobby is really solitary,but I don't mind if my partner interrupts sometimes and we get a cuppa and chat or whatever.

unfamousposter you've just reminded me that one ex always did that! It was like I had to say where I would be in the house and what I'd be doing

Normally he would go mad hoovering everything and cleaning. Seriously, he does, his hours of hoovering drive me fucking insane but I can't complain!

Otherwise he chats with his adult kids on phone or WhatsApp, surfs the net for random shit to do with gadgets, motorbikes and motorhomes, watches You Tube videos, might play the PS4, might go out and do man stuff in his garage.

We like the fact that we can entertain ourselves without the other. He doesn't seem to grasp the concept of Mumsnetting though, when I'm typing a post he sometimes cranes to see what I'm doing and says "Who are you talking to?"

The Internet, my love.

If I'm out he will sit on his game for hours, hes still innit when I get home.

If in at home doing my own thing he will switch from game to pestering me for attention, then back to his game, then back to me for attention.

Cleans. It annoys me.

Or interrupts what I’m doing , gardening, reading, mumsnet, to try and get me to do his thing....hmmm.

When we're together: Plays video games. Does housework. Drinks tea. Makes me coffee. Does some work.

If I want to do my own thing when we're not together (we don't live together yet), then he's happy for me to do that. He'll either see friends or stay at home doing any of the above.

Make squelchy sounds on his synthesiser

Who cares ?

Both work shifts, so don't get much time together
Both do our own things, own hobbies, visit friends, family, holidays, house chores

We enjoy our time together & look forward to it
Visit friends & family together
Do hobbies together
Holiday together

We both have our own lives
Then we have a life together too
Best of both worlds !

Plays the guitar, makes random stuff (like lamps and coffee tsbles), watches telly, eats snacks, looks after DC's. He loves it when I'm out or busy!

Plays his games, watches tv, plays with the dog, potters about cleaning.

We’re pretty good at not getting under each other’s feet.

Usually gaming (with his mates or on the computer) or jobs round the house. Sometimes watching tv. Otherwise looking after the baby (the reason I'm getting the alone time!).

Watches football / tv series that I'm not interested in.

Plays football manager.

Occasionally reads.

On the odd occasion he might go out to the pub with some mates but mostly he stays in and does ones of the above.

Takes the kids out, does the ironing, watches football, walk the dog, goes to buy beer, crisps and other stuff that I never buy because I don't eat or drink them, potters in the garden, visits his dad,

Walking, cycling, gardening, at a club he goes to, at the football, jobs around the house, cooking, taking son to practice driving, organising and researching family stuff.
We are good both together and on our own but definitely not in each other's pockets

Watches golf, watches videos of golf tips, practices his golf swing and videos himself,plays golf, watches old cowboy or war films.

I enjoy doing not much of anything in the house; read a book, bit of embroidery, marathon watch Netflix, sit in the garden if its nice, snooze for hourssss.

He likes to go to the gym (he can easily dwindle 3/4 hours there as he does bodybuilding) or climbs a hill.

We can easily dwindle away a whole Saturday daytime separately, but come together around 5pm to spend the evening together out on the town. Perfect match. Sundays are an "us" day, whether we are lazy together, or go hillwalking together.

Do stuff on the computer, watch TV, play an instrument, go cycling. We often do separate stuff.