Is he going to think I'm stalking him?

[autumnwonder]

I was seeing a guy and he told me another woman was interested,even showed me a pic on her Facebook and mentioned her name.
Out of the blue he said he didn't want to see me again...I asked if it was because of this other woman and he said i don't have to tell you.
Which is fair enough.
He continued messaging.
So I'm sat on instagram and her profile shows up in the suggested tab ..
So I try to resist but I click and scroll her pics.
Come off and think no more till the next day when I get the urge for another look.
Now her account is private
I'm worried I've accidentally liked her pic or something and she's told him.
He hasn't spoken in a day.
Is he going to think I'm a stalker here?
I'm sure I'm not the only one who's been curious before am I ?

No you're not the first and won't be the last, but......I'd stop with both of them. Damage limitation x

I really don't think I liked anything but I've just been worrying non stop incase I did.

Stop worrying.

I was seeing a guy and he told me another woman was interested,even showed me a pic on her Facebook and mentioned her name.
Out of the blue he said he didn't want to see me again...I asked if it was because of this other woman and he said i don't have to tell you.
Which is fair enough.

Ouch, this is horrible treatment! Fair enough? I don't think so!

Told you someone else was interested???? Showed you a fucking picture? Can you see what he is trying to do to you???

Still messaging you? Wow, he has some game and a right nerve. I think your question is all wrong and should be more along the lines of "How do I tell this waste of space to fuck off?" !!!!!!

ps Who gives a flying shoite what he thinks... He doesn't even deserve your headspace.

I agree with pp, absolutely not fair enough!! Block him!

Why are you still messaging back if he’s told you he doesn’t want to see you again? Even if he now changes his mind I would say there’s several red flags:
-why tell you another woman is interested other than to make you jealous
-why tell you he doesn’t want to see you again and refuse to give an answer
-why continue messaging which is clearly just him messing you about and feeding his ego
I’d stay away, move on and not worry about this woman’s profile.

If you did you did OP- so what really? As you say I'm sure we've all done it. She has probably looked you up too seeing as this guys obviously massively pathetic enough that he needs to play women off against one another and make them feel insecure just to try and keep them interested enough he get's an ego boost. Don't give him a minute of your time OP, if someone else falls for it more fool them really, it's nothing to be jealous about! I'd just block and move on.

He made me think I was being unreasonable asking these questions as in his words we weren't "official" so it's none of my business why he doesn't want to see me again.
I felt like I had been dropped from a great height with no explanation.
When I asked for any explanation he said I was looking for answers he really didn't have to give.
I just felt so belittled.
I couldn't help but look at her profile.

Look on this as a lucky escape, he’s obviously s complete tosspot. Block and move on!

This is definitely a case of tell him to go F himself. Plenty more fish in the sea. He sounds like a shark.

I'm trying to think of it that way.
Shown his true colours early enough.
It's crazy how people's behaviour and treatment of you change so fast isn't it?
I kept replying as I actually missed talking to him,bloody ridiculous.

Early dating is such a massive minefield!!
It's so tempting to plan when you've met someone and think it might have legs..
In this case, he's not good enough.
I'd turn attention to refreshing my profile and start again, and then enjoy this lovely day xxx

It's so disheartening when you really start to like the person and think it's reciprocated.
I put all my eggs in one basket and end up disappointed

I put all my eggs in a very wrong basket for 10 years with a man who started out using tricks not unlike this one. There are LOADS of other men out there, so stop engaging with someone who has shown you he is a wanker, ditch your disappointment (hand it metaphorically back to him), brush yourself down, shake yourself up and get back out there.

@Gemma1971 deffo going too Thankyou
I'm taking a month off from looking for anyone
I'm exhausted by it all

You can check your recent likes on insta by the way x

@JJSS123 oooh how ?

Found it ...and I never liked it
Phew
He's just not speaking cos he is a arse and not because he thinks I'm a stalker

Who cares what he thinks? He's a prick, stop messaging him. He's told you he's not interested so stop letting him treat you like shit

No more messaging him
Just feeding his ever expanding ego anyway

Leave him alone, block and move on.

Just back away, this isn't doing you any good mentally and he sounds a prize twat. I loved the days before SM when you couldn't stalk and make up stories to pictures 🙈

He sent me a text earlier saying he was hungover and had a fall last night and hurt his leg
Looking for sympathy I think
Just blocked him and didn't reply
It felt very good

Good for you op. His ego sounds massive. Enjoys playing games with you to keep you interested. He is no prize.
And there’s no way that his gf would know you’ve been looking at her public profile. The change to private is just a coincidence.