I've just got back from a trip away with a new-ish boyfriend and things turned nasty after we had a few glasses of fizz, for some ridiculous reason he thought it was acceptable to bring up out of the blue a non event from weeks ago (me being polite instead of rude to a random person who had spoken to me whilst out, in front of him I might add)
Nothing untoward or flirtatious whatsoever.
He launched into a tirade for over an hour about how I was 'engaging' him and was clearly giving out the wrong impression, he kept saying he felt disrespected and he swore at me. This continued on and on until I became tearful and quite frankly scared, I recorded what I could of the conversation and sent it to a relative along with the details of where we was staying and said if they hadn't heard from me by noon the next day then to come there or inform the police because I didn't know how much it would escalate. I still don't know whether I was over reacting by doing that but my gut tells me I wasn't. He was sat glaring at me and I genuinely believe he would have assaulted me the way it was going. The relative I sent all of this to said they were scared he was going to harm me based on how he was going off and the things he was saying.
I was continuously trying to diffuse the situation to no avail so I could go to sleep and leave first thing the next morning. He was full on bullying me by this point. I asked him to stop several times and was crying.
Eventually he stopped but only once I told him yes I must have been in the wrong and that he was right so I apologised and asked him to stop once more.
I don't for one second accept that but I was very anxious.
He then left the room and went on the balcony and began to cry, clearly because he realised he'd fucked it for himself. I ignored his histrionics and pretended to be sleeping, i then left first thing the next morning and was out the door by the time he was getting out of bed.
Wtf was that about? We've been seeing one another three months and it was like a mask had slipped and he's shown me a while other side to himself, and it's awful.
I've been on edge since I got home not knowing what to expect from him next, I've had some grovelling messages which I've ignored but I'm yet to block because I don't know how he'll react if I do. I know enough to know that the risk is heightened when you go NC. I can't call the police yet because other than an argument he hasn't done anything.
This is more than just a drunken tiff isn't it, he's psycho 