packing dh stuff up and putting it in garden while he is at work as he has started getting violent

[lillaura123]

am i doing the right thing - he wont leave when i ask him too

my dad is coming over to be with me - i wont be pressing charges as i dont have any marks - if he kicks off today i will

police have domestic violence team - it is their job to help you. pls call and ask to speak to them they may be able to offer support when he is due back

You really do need to call the police and tell them what you a re doing and what he has done in the past.

You need to have more support for when he comes back

think ur being incredibly strong x you know ur doing the right thing and ur doing summat about it, many ppl dont xxx

Oh good, glad your dad will be there, still a good idea to report the violence to the police, it could be relevent in the future, ie, a custody battle.

i am same age as u and i think its fab that u want to keep her even tho u dont have to.i agrre tho i think u should inform the police as to what ur doing.....explain hes been violent and ur kicking him out

got a feeling he will kick off enough for me to have to call cops anyway

is your dad going to stay with u untill its over with???

call them and tell them that. you dont want to have to wait for them to arrive

hi lilli agree with fawke call police just to inform them that way they can put an alert on your house. that means if you call it shows up as dv and they will be there quicker than anything and more than just 1 copper ina patrol car.

Hope it all goes ok today. See about an injunction too. Will be thinking of you today. Take care x

agrree with that post.
when my mum kicked her husband out, she told the police she was going to do it and may need assistance urgently.
they were glad she had informed them and as a result responded quickly.
past experience with him taught us to pre-warn them, otherwise they would take over an hour to come out, by which time there was nothing that could be done and he was long gone.
whatever happens, stay strong and make sure you follow it through.
with your dad there to help you can do this.

I was in an abusive relationship, and called the police every time I received a threat, or even just a drunken phone call, not to press charges but just to keep a record of the Domestic Abuse, it really helps if they know whats going on.

if you are in a council house it is likely that they have a team that deal with domestic violence.

call your housing officer and explain the situation.

they can offer help with additional security, and if you want your locks changed they would normally waiver the feed to do this in a DV case.

What time is he due home?

well guys my dad came over as i didnt know what time h was coming bk - we spoke about it all , and i decided taht h would be less likely to go off the handle if i prewarned him - so sent him this "look, i didnt wana do this over a txt but u wont tel me wot time ur bk, i cant go on with the way things are with us, i can handle aguements even the money but cant live with the lies and violence, think its best if we call it a day . i have put your stuff in shed, all except dvd player and trucks wil sort them later please dnt cause any hassle i dnt wana fight any more "

this was follwed by a call form him tried apologising and said he wanted to talk , i refused told him how i felt that it would get worse and that the kids were being effected by it all and that i dont want them growing up like that , so dont know how things will pan out now tho but at least he knows

he hasnt come back yet which is weird as he finished work at least an hour ago??

well done.

He may have goen to the pub - so make sure you ahve the police number on redail

btw my mum did exactly this to my step father - we were so relieved when he was gone

I hope he doesn't come back drunk and aggressive. Well done for saying something to him. I hope your dad can stay with you.

Good for you lill. I hope this evening is a quiet one for you.

wouldnt go to pub he doesnt go to the pub, he has been and gone he creid alot but he didnt cause hassle

no he wont come back he is genuinly feeling sorry for himself left her knowing what he has lost - but iv heard it all b4 im not backing down

I'm glad he was calm, lillaura.
Well done for being so strong.

how are things?

good thanks - he treid putting me on a guilt trip by sleeping in the car in our carpark but i didnt work cause i know he has plenty of places to go - i let him have a coffee and a wash here but pretty much blanked him out