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If your DP snores, how have you solved the problem?

47 replies

Pelican88 · 27/08/2019 10:59

My DP (34) snores terribly and always has and we have to sleep in separate rooms. He's very loud and to make matters worse, I'm a very light sleeper. I'm just looking to see if anyone else has this problem, and what they have done to help solve the problem?

Some nights he's as quiet as a mouse but I've got no idea why he is on those nights. He's a mouth snorer - it's because he's got quite a soft palate and a bit of an under bite. He's seen the GP who said there was nothing they could do. DP has now totally given up on sorting the problem. He won't try a mouth guard as he thinks it'll damage his teeth and we also can't afford one as the proper dentist ones are very expensive.

We/I have tried:
Anti snoring sprays, lozenges, and nose strips
Side sleeping
Ear plugs
Headphones
Headphones with ear plugs
White noise
CBT
Meditation
Just trying to get used to it (tried for 6 months, no success)

I'm trying to create an optimistic thread with potential solutions rather than just a rant about the situation, because I've done that enough Blush

Any help is greatly appreciated.

OP posts:
hellhavenofury · 27/08/2019 11:01

Buried him under the patio! Well thought about it regularly! (Sorry not all that helpful!)

hellhavenofury · 27/08/2019 11:03

But I have found that if he sleeps on his side cuddling me he doesn't snore! I don't know why or how but it actually works!

c3pu · 27/08/2019 11:03

I ended the relationship

PaddyF0dder · 27/08/2019 11:03

I’m a man who has had a snoring problem.

For us, it got better when I lost weight.

dementedpixie · 27/08/2019 11:04

My dh got diagnosed with sleep apnoea and has a CPAP machine and that has stopped his snoring

Sketcher · 27/08/2019 11:05

Mine got his tonsils out. They said it wouldn’t work. It did

MissSueFlay · 27/08/2019 11:07

Is he overweight, and is he often tired during the day? Sleep apnoea can be a cause of really loud snoring and disrupts sleep for the snorer as well as for everyone else. If it really is loud then it's probably worth looking into.

RantyAnty · 27/08/2019 11:08

Is he overweight?

Allergies?

So lose weight if he is overweight and get evaluated for sleep apnoea like another poster mentioned.

Original poster
Pelican88 · 27/08/2019 11:10

He's very thin, the doctor wouldn't refer him for sleep apnea as he said DP looks fine physically. DP does get a lot of headaches so I wouldn't rule out sleep apnea but now the GP has said it's a no go, my DP won't go back. I think he's very embarrassed and felt like he was wasting their time.

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SignedUpJust4This · 27/08/2019 11:10

He probably needs to lose weight. Failing that I have a shovel you can borrow and I can keep a secret.

PrayingandHoping · 27/08/2019 11:11

Ear plugs. Bought a selection until I found some I got along with

Ladybird37 · 27/08/2019 11:12

A friend has osa and is very slim. It can sometimes be caused by the anatomy of the nose/throat and does not exclusively affect those who are overweight

Original poster
Pelican88 · 27/08/2019 11:13

Thanks for all your input so far!

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MashedSpud · 27/08/2019 11:13

I usually gently manoeuvre him onto his side (his back to me) then cuddle him so he can’t move onto his back again. That works fine and he never remembers me moving him.

Dockray · 27/08/2019 11:13

Referral to a sleep apnoea clinic and a cpap machine.

Actually 2 referrals cos the pillock under reported the impact it had on him and me. I went to his second consultation and was asked why I was there. I said if they didn't do something to help DH there was a very strong possibility he'd be smothered in the night because while he didn't think it was that bad, I was ready to snap. Bloke laughed and said he always knew it was bad when the partner came. Walked out with a machine that day and dh feels so much better because of it.

FuriousVexation · 27/08/2019 11:13

If the GP won't refer then go private

It's either that or split up.

Original poster
Pelican88 · 27/08/2019 11:14

I'm not going to split up because we have to sleep in separate rooms, we have a very loving, affectionate and intimate relationship

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chocolatesaltyballs22 · 27/08/2019 11:14

Divorced him Grin

CassianAndor · 27/08/2019 11:15

with respect, this is for the men in question to sort out, not their DWs or DPs.

I second sleep apnoea.

Dockray · 27/08/2019 11:15

Dh was skinny as anything when we got together. He still snored like a freight train and stopped breathing on a regular basis. As a pp said, OSA isn't always to do with weight.

Original poster
Pelican88 · 27/08/2019 11:16

Sleeping separately doesn't affect our relationship thankfully and we've been doing this for 2 years

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MerryDeath · 27/08/2019 11:16

separate rooms sounds ideal to me. enjoy the space.

CursedDiamond · 27/08/2019 11:51

Mine got treated for heartburn (omeprazole) and we realised there was a connection. Does he suffer from acid reflux?

Starstruck2020 · 27/08/2019 11:59

Sleep study followed by a CPAP machine. DH was in denial about how bad his snoring was until we went camping with a large group and everyone commented on his snoring. Now he even takes the CPAP camping (powered sites)

stucknoue · 27/08/2019 12:03

Divorce? Spare room!

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