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If your DP snores, how have you solved the problem?

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Pelican88 · 27/08/2019 10:59

My DP (34) snores terribly and always has and we have to sleep in separate rooms. He's very loud and to make matters worse, I'm a very light sleeper. I'm just looking to see if anyone else has this problem, and what they have done to help solve the problem?

Some nights he's as quiet as a mouse but I've got no idea why he is on those nights. He's a mouth snorer - it's because he's got quite a soft palate and a bit of an under bite. He's seen the GP who said there was nothing they could do. DP has now totally given up on sorting the problem. He won't try a mouth guard as he thinks it'll damage his teeth and we also can't afford one as the proper dentist ones are very expensive.

We/I have tried:
Anti snoring sprays, lozenges, and nose strips
Side sleeping
Ear plugs
Headphones
Headphones with ear plugs
White noise
CBT
Meditation
Just trying to get used to it (tried for 6 months, no success)

I'm trying to create an optimistic thread with potential solutions rather than just a rant about the situation, because I've done that enough Blush

Any help is greatly appreciated.

OP posts:
AnneKipanki · 27/08/2019 12:08

Mandibular advancement appliance from dentist or orthodontist.
Private sleep clinic assessment?
Has he filled in a sleep assessment questionnaire?

AnneKipanki · 27/08/2019 12:09

Agree with pp , not always weight .

Fossilette · 27/08/2019 12:16

My husband's snoring has always been horrendous. He has tried losing weight and he wears a special gum shield to push his lower jaw forward. Nothing really works. I decided to see if I could do anything to help me and so invested in some Bose Sleepbuds, which have been great! Means he doesn't have to move to the spare room every night!

MissDew · 27/08/2019 14:07

I noticed my husband didn't snore as much when we were away for the night. Different pillows I thought.

I purchased some new pillows and it's cut his snoring right down. I plump his pillow up when he's not looking (he has two but sleeps on one.)

We've tried throat sprays, nose clips, getting fed up in the middle of the night and arguing about it. Nothing has worked. Except me de-camping to the spare room.

If I can hear his snoring even starting (through my hush plugz ear plugs) and I'm aware of my adrenaline starting to roll, I go to the spare room. I've learned this technique the hard way i.e. don't wait until I am wide awake furious before I de-camp or it's harder for me to get to sleep when I've sought refuge in the spare room. AGAIN.

lovebeingmum9 · 27/08/2019 18:23

me and my hubby both snore.....it's a race as to who falls asleep 1st 🤣

madcatladyforever · 27/08/2019 18:26

Luckily I live alone as I snore like a warthog. It makes me ill as I'm waking up 10 times in the night.
I've ordered a CPAP machine because the smoring is making me ill, that should solve the problem.
I could have had sleep studies etc but it would have taken months and it was easier in the end just to buy one.

mike3 · 27/08/2019 18:39

I'm the snoring DP. Tried it all, nothing worked. Switched to sleeping on my front, with my forehead on my pillow, nose tucked under it, mouth against mattress IYSWIM. Hands crossed under pillow as I couldn't sleep with them by my side.

Was awful at the start, had terrible back ache in the morning, felt horrible sleeping like that, but I got used to it and DW now sleeps soundly.

Windmillwhirl · 27/08/2019 18:49

Silicone ear plugs!! I'm also a very light sleeper. I'll try and find a link to the ones I get on Amazon. I bought them off the back of the reviews.

icanclearabuffet · 27/08/2019 19:09

My DH is a terrible snorer. He's slim so not a weight issue. He was prepared to go to the dentist to have a snoreguard fitted (no guarantee it would work) but decided to try a wedge pillow first. It's worked! He also wears a neck brace too. Took him a week or so to get used to sleeping slightly upright but my God what a difference😄
Both purchased from Amazon. Only problem now is we have to take a mahoosive suitcase when going away to accommodate the wedge pillow!

SquigglePigs · 27/08/2019 19:20

We sleep in separate rooms too. Have done since before we got married.when we do share a room (staying with our parents to friends) I wear ear plugs. I find them great for a few nights but my ears get a little sore if I have to wear them for an extended period. Apparently I snore too but DH is such a deep sleeper he it doesn't bother him!!

SpringLake · 27/08/2019 19:40

An extra pillow makes all the difference here. Just have to keep reminding to actually use it. Working on getting to the gp for aponea investigation... as at times he holds his breath for an absolute age when deeply asleep and really worries me!

MoltoAgitato · 27/08/2019 19:43

Separate rooms, and I’m buggered if I’m having the crappier spare room. DH snores because he’s too fat and won’t do anything about it. I wear earplugs if we have to share a bed on any occasion but they hurt my ears.

Peanutbuttericecream · 27/08/2019 19:45

Separate rooms, bliss.

Shebertherbert · 27/08/2019 20:10

Seperate rooms here too.

homemadecommunistrussia · 27/08/2019 20:17

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Pelican88 · 28/08/2019 08:09

Hi all, thank you so much for your comments. I will consider some of the things we haven't tried, namely the pillow, but the problem I think will also be getting DP to realise this is a problem not just for me but potentially his health.

Fossilette - I was considering the Bose headphones but they are so expensive for what they are. Can you still hear snoring through them?

OP posts:
AnaChocolatte · 28/08/2019 08:13

Have you tried the silicone nose dilators? That's what worked for my DP (Thank God).

Fossilette · 28/08/2019 10:06

@Pelican88 they mask the noise very significantly. I honestly haven't had to ask him to move to the spare room since getting them! At 6 foot 2 and 16 stone, his snoring is pretty loud!!! They have certainly been a life saver for me!

AnybodyWantAChip · 28/08/2019 10:39

Separate rooms. Only viable long term solution.

PuzzledObserver · 28/08/2019 11:14

According to one article I saw, roughly half of problem snorers (bad enough to disturb partner) have undiagnosed OSA and the other half don’t. Surely it’s worth a simple test to find out, because if he does have it then CPAP will absolutely fix it.

There is a charity which will lend the machine for a DIY sleep study for £50. If you could persuade him to do that then he would either have the ammunition to go back to the GP for a referral, or you would know that wasn’t the problem.

www.hope2sleep.co.uk/sleep-apnoea-home-screening-service.html

My OH’s snoring wasn’t that bad - not all the time and not that loud - but he was constantly tired, and I heard him not breathing when asleep. Got him to GP, referral to sleep clinic and he was diagnosed with sleep apnoea. Now on a CPAP machine and never snores.

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