Being made to feel inadequate during sex - possible TMI

[Msgiggles30]

Hi I havent really got anyone to talk to about this in real life and just need to get it off my chest as feeling upset.

Last night I was having sex with my partner (this is not my boyfriend but an on off casual sex partner of 6 years) and he was a bit drunk - he doesnt normally drink much. He was struggling to hold his erection but seemed to be putting his frustration onto me. Things like getting annoyed when I couldnt get into the position he wanted, even saying try not to crush me! And also whilst giving him oral he was just telling me exactly what to do the whole duration of it and saying certain things just feel numb.

So obviously I am feeling upset now. Hes not been like this before, he is dominant and will tell me how to move etc but never like this totally critical way before. I dont want to get into an emotional conversation with him over one time as we arent in that type of relationship but also this has made me not want to continue. Am I over reacting? Is this his problem not mine? Feeling really rubbish but know ile probably be fine tomorrow once I stop replaying

The best sex happens in a good loving relationship

While the OP's experience doesn't sound great, this is straight out s--t shaming. Plenty of people have fantastic sex outside of "loving" relationships.

You could try having a conversation with him about it over coffee - not in the bedroom. If you've known him so long this shouldn't be a problem. Tell him you are not happy with the way he treated you last time and TELL HIM what YOU want in the bedroom WHEN you want it. Start being more dominant yourself and always get what you want out of this. If you really arn't happy with things then cut it off.