Insulting birthday card from husband AIBU?

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Birthday card on front says

Birthday girl
Become instantly younger with the Eternal Youth rejuvenating lifestyle!
The secrets in the formula...no diet...no exercise...just lie about your age!

I'm 31 and a size 12 with a mum tum after 2 kids. I don't diet or exercise I was a size 8-10 when I met him.

He's not one to give a jokey card it's usually just sweet cards. He said he didn't realise its offensive he just liked the design and didn't pick it for the words.

Am I being sensitive and unreasonable? Is he giving me a dig that I am getting old and need to lose weight or mybe he's just an idiot?

It's deffo knocked my confidence a bit I know it's only a birthday card but surely he's not that stupid and he'd know it'd offend me

I don’t think it’s offensive!

It's really naff, but inoffensive!

I can't see how it's offensive. Surely it's suggesting you'd get away with saying you're younger than you are - as in, you still look young? Which is sexist and naff but not offensive really. At least not towards you!

not offensive to me in the slightest

I’d say to him what is that all about?!
But yeah it’s pretty naff so try not to worry x

Shitting hell, it's a joke card, that is all!

It's a crap joke but it's hardly something to get wound up over.

If he’s always given you sweet cards then suddenly this one, I think you have a right to be a bit- surprised.

Ok youve got two threads in two boards about this so it is really bothering you.

What else did he do for you on your birthday?

I think you’re being a bit touchy, it’s naff but that’s it. I’m a fine one to talking though, I once objected (in my head - didn’t voice it) to a card where dh had written ‘I still love you’. Still? Still? I should fucking hope so mate!

Just sounds like a silly card.

Does it match his usual sense of humor?

Lol. Anyone over 30 fair game for joke cards about age. YABU.

No present either not that I care about a present but he left it till today to go searching last minute in the shops for something and said he had no idea what to get me I don't know if it's that plus this random card and yeah I don't know

It's normally the usual nice card with flowers or something on it

Have you spoken to him about this apparent lack of care?

I do get where you are coming from. It’s horrible to feel insecure and overanalyse things. If you are worried or insecure about your marriage then take some steps to make it better. Date nights, more fun activities, talking more, whatever. I don’t think the card is offensive, but if it triggers this reaction in you try to work on some positive things to improve your marriage.

He is thoughtless. Yanbu at all.

More lazy than offensive. Your anger says more about how you feel about yourself than some lazy card.

It’s not particularly funny but not really offensive either.

I think getting a stupid joke card for your partner is a bit off, especially coupled with no gift. I'd be upset too.

You can get your own back when it's HIS birthday - see how he likes getting an Old fart joke card and a car air freshener as his gift, bought from the local petrol station.
Can't wait to see his wee face ...

I wouldn't like it much either. I mean first birthday past thirty I can see why someone would choose it for a laugh but I'd prefer my partner to exercise some tact if I was just post baby bod or whatever and it wasn't his usual style.

It’s the sort of card me & dh would get each other. I find it quite funny. Not the answer you were expecting. The present - meh. Wouldn’t be bothered as long as I had a cup of tea in bed & 30 minutes on my own. That would be better than any present.