Insulting birthday card from husband AIBU?

[Amibeingsensitive]

Birthday card on front says

Birthday girl
Become instantly younger with the Eternal Youth rejuvenating lifestyle!
The secrets in the formula...no diet...no exercise...just lie about your age!

I'm 31 and a size 12 with a mum tum after 2 kids. I don't diet or exercise I was a size 8-10 when I met him.

He's not one to give a jokey card it's usually just sweet cards. He said he didn't realise its offensive he just liked the design and didn't pick it for the words.

Am I being sensitive and unreasonable? Is he giving me a dig that I am getting old and need to lose weight or mybe he's just an idiot?

It's deffo knocked my confidence a bit I know it's only a birthday card but surely he's not that stupid and he'd know it'd offend me

Well I wouldn't find it offensive but we generally send each other jokey things. Just talk to him about it.

It was the least-worst card he could find in the petrol station/discount card shop when he went in yesterday. I'd be disappointed that he hadn't put more effort into finding a nice card, since it was obviously bought in desperation, but it's not at all offensive and I don't think he's sending you any sort of message.

I wouldn't find the wording of the card offensive. I'd be upset though that he's obviously grabbed a random card off the shelf on the last minute and not put any thought into it and no thought into buying a gift. I always put effort into the cards and gift I give to my DH so it would hurt if he did this and made no effort. Tell him you now expect a nice, expensive gift to make up for it!

Your anger says more about how you feel about yourself than some lazy card.

Yes, this. You’re insecure about your weight and you’re projecting.

But combined with general lack of planning and “not knowing what to get you” he’s screwed up.

You’re allowed to be disappointed- why don’t you tell him you’d love to go shopping and choose something together.

@Amibeingsensitive i think he's hit a nerve (unintentionally) i think you are not feeling your best and its like hes confirmed what you're thinking. its a shit card for your wifes birthday IMO. your birthday is not the day to make jokes about your appearance (or any day tbf!) as the old saying goes if you havent got anything nice to say dont say anything at all. tell him the card is crap and put it behind you. i was a size 10/12 when i met my hubby 16 years ago and he actually said to me after we'd been dating 6 weeks 'oh by the way i dont do size 14's, im just letting you know'. i should have decked him and left then but here we are! im a size 12 and he's gone from a 32" waist to a 38". oh how i love this. i often say 'did i not mention i dont do size 38?"' and then i laugh my head off. they are thoughtless pigs. ignore him and let him know theres plenty of men who would willingly fill his shoes..