Bit personal (question)

[Chilledout11]

Dh has got into a habit of me giving him lots of physical touching but nothing back. Too hurt and embarrassed to bring it up with him. Once he gets what he wants he goes to sleep. This morning I snapped at him and he doesnt know what is wrong.

You will need to be a little less cryptic with both him and us!

You need to speak to him
Do you mean you're giving him hand jobs and he never makes you cum? Not good enough

That's it. I was really annoyed with him but now it's frequent. It's making me want to walk away from it all. Whats the point.

Surely speaking to him only makes him think 'oh I better do it to keep her happy''.
Think next I will refuse and say no thanks.

He needs to realise you are not his sex slave, as this is exactly the way he is treating you. Its really quite hideous to read that someone is treating you this way. I am so sorry

Physical touching, do you mean giving him a wank or massages and cuddles?

Why not tell him after 'hey, it's my turn'?

He's not s mind reader, talk to the man!

Now reread and you've answered my question.

Just tell him it's your turn to cum before he gets anything,

My partners have always been as interested in me being satisfied as themselves!!!!

If you're not comfortable enough to tell him what you want then you probably shouldn't be sleeping with him at all.

Surely speaking to him only makes him think 'oh I better do it to keep her happy''.

Why would this be a bad thing?

If you don’t want to speak about it directly, the next time he hints just say Quid pro quo, Clarice, quid pro quo.

Definitely not on, if it was me in your situation I'd say that it was his turn first, not that you should have to ask for it. Maybe send a dirty text explaining exactly what you want and see what he does?

Snapping and not explaining why won't help, although it'd annoy me too. Hope things change for you soon.

How she meant to know if you e never told him?

Men are really bad mind readers.

Try to communicate your needs to him without frustration (though I feel you're perfectly entitled to be frustrated), perhaps write him a letter if it's otherwise too awkward.

You snapped at him?
He is a selfish twat and yabu not to have snapped it off!

So Tell him what's wrong

If you're embarrassed to tell him, maybe you shouldn't be having personal relations with him

He's not s mind reader, talk to the man!

Why on earth would only a mind reader know not to be selfish in bed?

Have a bottle of wine together and bring it up in the conversation :)

You have to talk to him OP. It would be crazy to walk away without even giving him a chance! Tell him you’ve noticed this and you’re finding it puzzling and frustrating.

Would you mind doing the 'touching' if it was reciprocated? Would you prefer sex? Talk to him about it, or try and initiate

“My turn to go first this time love!” Should do it!

When he suggests it, do yourself first. Just to give him the hint.

This used to be my husband. I got so fed up at it not being reciprocated that I told him no sex unless he spends time on me first. It worked.