How to ask someone out...

[Gemma1971]

... who works in a takeaway?

There's a guy I keep seeing when I walk past a local takeaway en route to do my shopping or just to pick up some forgotten bits and pieces a couple of times a week. He always seems to be in there, especially at the weekends, it's a takeaway pizza place and is usually super busy as it's good value for money and great food.

I'm not a big takeaway food eater myself, like, once in a blue moon usually, maybe not even every 6 months! But I went in there recently as a friend wanted something and he served us, and I noticed how attractive he was, dark and handsome... albeit on the short side...but those EYES :D I first noticed him ages ago, maybe even two years ago, and thought, mmm, cute.... but I was in a long-distance relationship... one that was never actually going to work out, and I am a couple of weeks out of that now.

I have to add that this relationship was so on and off due to him being a covert abuser that in my head it was over a long time ago, and I am not particularly grieving the end, and feeling generally positive about my decision.

I am ready for a fresh start. A fling.. maybe more... He has caught my eye and sometimes he will stare out of the window when I go past. I planned to buy a blank card, one with some random nice photo on the front, writing my number in it and saying something like, Hey, Would you like to meet for coffee /beer some time? I think you're cute.... and just hand it to him (in an envelope of course), after buying some chips.

What you reckon? She who dares, wins? Nothing ventured, nothing gained? Or too cheesy? Pardon the pizza association LOL

Go for it, you’ve nothing to lose! Good luck 😉 x

Exactly what bob said! Go for it!!

Doesn't hurt to try, perhaps personalise the note a bit more so it doesn't look like you have a generic stack ready to go on case someone catches your eye 😂

Agree with poster above ^

See if you can get something with a pizza picture on it or something!

And come back and tell us how you got in.

Rooting for you!

Do it.

I remember when it was excruciatingly embarrassing for someone I found attractive to find that out.

Nowadays, I tend to think, "fuck it". It's nice to know someone has noticed you, even if you're not interested.

I agree with making a reference to something about him to personalise it and then just say something like, "a way, if you fancy getting a drink sometimes, here's my number"

Maybe get ti know him a bit first.

Just chat generally.
If he's keen you'll soon know.
You may find he's got a girl friend though as you don't really know him.

But in the olden days, it was quite normal to see someone you liked the look of and ask them out without spending 2-3 weeks 'chatting' and getting to know them first.

If you liked them, you saw them again, if you didn't, then you didn't.

Sending him a card in his workplace is a bit much when you've not really spoke to him.

Go in and order some food and speak to him, see if you get any hint that he's into you. He might be in a relationship or clearly isn't interested, or you could see something in him that puts you off. Take it from there, leave your number if you feel it's right once actually speaking to him.

You need to test the water before sending him a card asking for a date & giving your number. He might be weirded out by it & you don't want to blow your chances.

Loving the support here :D

I have tried to talk to him but they are all so busy in there, always a queue as a general rule, it never seems to be quiet. Once I walked past and it looked a little quieter than usual, then suddenly 5 or 6 members of staff came out from the back lol. So I felt too embarrassed to go in and chat and try to find out more about him, especially as they are all guys - that probably sounds pathetic!

I love the suggestion about finding a card with pizza on the front... I was just thinking something along those lines that might make him smile.

Heck if he is already attached, then he can just toss my card in the bin I guess. A couple of years back I found him on FB and his status said single, but I can't remember his name.... oh dear ha ha..... it was through the shop's FB page, which has changed now.

Going to see if I can find a funny card this weekend :D I will keep you all posted!

Go for it!

Go for it. You're never going to "get to know him" whilst he's serving pizza. Meet for a coffee so you can chat but also so you can leave if it's not going how you expected. If it works great. If it doesn't well you can just avoid the takeaway.

That would make me cautious OP, they're all going to see this card & what's in it.

I think you need to try not to be a stranger to him first and go in there again. Are you planning on handing the card to him and just walking away?

I'm a bit of a traditionalist I'm afraid 🙄

Go in, order some food, strike up a conversation, see how it flows?

If he's interested he'll definitely find a way to ask you out. Personally, I think, one rarely has to push a guy (yet alone pursue them) if they're into you! Let him be the man and chase you.....you're worth it 😁

Ah go for it OP!

Yeah but maybe his workplace has rules about stagg asking out customers and it will be frowned upon/he could get into trouble.

It’s abit much imo. You haven’t even spoken to him by the sounds of it.

Thank you for all the input. I'm going to get a funny(ish), relevant card and just say I have noticed him a few times and think he's cute and would he like to meet for coffee. Not going to overthink it.

Actually waaaaaaaaaay back, I was in a pub with a friend and there was a cute guy and we were about to leave to go see a film and she said, write a note, I bet he will be delighted. I did and he contacted me, we went on a few dates, and he was really nice but there was no "click" between us. I guess this is sort of different though, as not a pub, where people often chat each other up.

I know if I go in to try to talk to him more, I will not get much of a chance to interact because of their general business, plus he seems to be some sort of manager from what I have overheard while in there, and always running back and forth. And I will clam up ha ha.... I'm going to bite zee bullet and take the chance! I veel be back... in the immortal words of Arnie!

Good idea about the card OP... all the best..Watching with interest xx

Do you ever see him when he’s not working? Asking someone out at work isn’t very nice. Asking someone out on the street when they don’t have to be polite to you if you e offended them - perfectly fine.

Be bold. Go in and order a pizza. If he says "anything else?" Say "yeah, your phone number!" Or if he doesn't say that when he's giving you the pizza, hand it back edith a grin and a pen and say "you forgot something, your phone number!" Then text him what you would have put in the card. If he says no, nothing lost because you never use that take away normally anyway

Go for it OP. And report back.

I once asked a guy out who worked in the local supermarket. A few weeks on the trot he was in the car park booth and you had to hand in a ticket to have the barrier raised. So, on my ticket, I asked if he wanted to go for a drink and put my phone number.

I think he thought I was crazy, and he never rang or anything, but boy I was glad I did it.

Truthfully, I wasn't bothered - I mean, who one earth was he? I knew nothing about him! I think at that time in my life, I just needed to do something bold.

If you're not fussed about the outcome, go for it, but if you want to get to know him a bit first I'd suggest something a bit less bold.

Was it awkward when you seen him again after SevenStones ?

A tiny bit, not enough to particularly bother me!