Online dating profile - what should I think?

[PennyPitStop19]

My husband and I have been separated for over a year. We have been intimate once since he moved out. He has made passes at me since including attempts to sext. He said that he would never sleep with anyone else whilst still technically married to me. I have found out he has an online dating profile. What would you think?

Perhaps he is lying to you. Its a thing people do sometimes.

You are doing an AMAZING job holding it all together by yourself. You are worth everything to your children. Hang in there @LittleMy20.

Try and get an early night, as tiredness doesn't help and think about ways forward tomorrow. Big hug to you.

Sounds to me like he wants no strings sex with you, but not the life of family with kids, so is looking for a different long trerm partner.

Thanks MangoLovebutter for your kind words m.

He wants the family life but doesn’t understand the contribution he needs to make to that and always thought my requests unreasonable - for a nap once a week, for him to
Do the bins- anything really. He’s very sorry for himself to not be with the children.

I was suggesting ASD charities/services to get you some peer support as much as anything, as you say you're the only person who can deal with your son safely. Meeting other parents in the same situation, having access to whatever activities and groups they might have going on might give you a lift and open up more possibilities for you.

Yes thanks Category12. I haven’t come across any such help yet although I have been to a local charity for parents of kids with disabilities.

What’s that song about if you’re under him you’re not getting over him...?
It’s true.
For him he fancies a few home comforts in your bed and probably think you feel the same and he’s doing you a favour.
For you it’s more about why he is interested in you again and hoping there may be something more than just sex.
Sorry but unless he’s doing other things like taking you out for a meal or suchlike then I think it’s purely sex. He’s safe with what he knows he likes. Perhaps even you’re better than nothing (so sorry, trying to be honest and consider all angles, it may not be that though)
Up to you if that suits you too, just try not to read anything else into it or it will make you feel sad and used.
And you must use condoms and practice safe sex as you’ve no idea where he has been.
Sorry.

Yes Elieza I know all of that isn’t on my mind.

@PennyPitStop19 @LittleMy20 - sorry tagging you gave me the OP, am confused.
Didn't want to read without saying to you, please don't think you have nothing to offer.. you are raising 2 children on your own that is pretty damn great!
It sounds like your self-esteem has taken a battering. Do you have the Headspace app - there could be some self-affirming meditation things on that which could help...
Please don't sleep with him again though - it'll just make you sink lower
💐

Do you have any child services you could reach out to to give you a little respite?
You seem to be doing an awesome job on your own so far..... kids test you at the best of times, I can't imagine how hard it is dealing with a little one with specific needs.
Takes 20mins for yourself every night while they are in bed..... run a nice bath and try relax your mind. Too many thoughts running thru your mind can destroy you..... your babies need their mum to be strong..... and even tho you sound down on yourself.... from what you've said about your son being hard work..... your stronger than you know

Sorry op I was referring to pp JinglingHellsBells!who seemed to think it was concerning that your child seen a dating app on his phone and said that a child shouldn’t have access to that. Lots of parental have dating apps and I’m sure they allow their children to play on their phones it’s not a big deal that the child seen it.

I agree with pp that you should look into getting respite, I think you have to go through social services though.