Do all women check out other women?

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So I have anxiety and OCD and it used to be health related but now its sexuality related. My partner said sometimes we are sexually incompatible and that set off my anxiety and OCD and I started to worry that I was suddenly a lesbian (I know it sounds OTT).

I know I am sexually and romantically attracted to men but I do know that I often look at women a lot more in public than men and analyse their body. Part of me thinks this is because I'm jealous and I want that body because I've had issues with weight loss etc. but my OCD is telling me that its because I suddenly fancy women. I don't look at a woman thinking I fancy you but I do pay more attention to women's bodies than mens.

So is it normal for women to 'check out' other women or pay attention to women more than men?

Yup I do it a lot! When I'm out with friends we comment way more on women than we would do on men, as in oh she looks lovely, love her hair, love the dress etc etc.... I'm always checking out women & how amazing we are.

Thankyou that makes me feel better! @starflake

It’s really normal. DH ‘checks out’ other guys sometimes too, he’s not gay! We all look at other humans from time to time whether male or female, it’s just curiosity.

yes, totally normal. women are so much more interesting to look at than men imo (and i'm not a lesbian). also - i have OCD too and it is exhausting. sending you a hug x

If I’m looking at you, I’m trying to see what novel you’re reading.

I do check out women much more then men. Im bisexual but married to a man.

I never do.

Absolutely normal. I do.

I don’t do this but hey no harm in it.

I do it all the time. It's like research. How old is she? What is she wearing? What is her figure like? How do all of these things compare to me? Is she attractive? Which feature of hers do I like or want to copy? Or avoid!!!

I rarely look at a woman and think 'wow, I wouldn't mind a shot if her' but i do look at a lot of women.

It is normal but if you suffer from OCD you’ll know that asking other people to check whether things are normal or not is part of your condition and you should try to get help for that if you can. My partner sometimes asks me to participate in checking rituals - did I lock it? Did you see me lock it? Are you sure you saw me lock it? In the end, no amount of reassurance is enough to counter an intrusive or obsessive thought. OCD is very treatable though. Apologies if you know all this already and hope you manage to find some peace.

Very normal. I’ve just returned from holiday where I saw so many beautiful bikini bodied women at the beach.

Years ago I may have felt more envy than I do these days. And whilst I still look at some women and think “wow I wish I looked like that” I mostly find myself thinking “she is beautiful, what a lovely figure/skin/toned legs she has”.

I don’t think I looked at a single man whilst we were away, and I am straight.

It's completely normal, gay or straight.

DH went for his Friday lunchtime pint today and got talking to a group of retired men who were on a bit of a jolly from Wales (my husband's Welsh), they had a bit of a chat, but they were all quite insistent to tell him what a good-looking man he was and if his wife was anything like they imagined, we'd be a beautiful couple.

Which is a bit odd from retired blokes, but as straight men, they'd obviously clocked my husband's handsomeness.

So, I think acknowledging good looks in people of either sex is quite normal. I don't think true good looks are that common, so it is notable from either sex. I notice great looking people.

Nowt wrong with that.

I don’t do this 🤔

Yup! Women have much nicer features imo. I'm happily married but will appreciate out a beautiful figure when I see one!

I look at other women like I look at Pinterest. So if I’m thinking about changing my hairstyle, I’ll look at women’s hair and wonder if that would suit me.

Or I’ll look at their outfits, consider if I like the way they have combined colours etc.

I don’t look at them thinking they are hot and I want to shag them.

It is completely normal and if you have ocd it’s going to take on a bigger significance. Please google ‘pure ocd’, this is a very common theme. There’s also a book and a channel 4 series called Pure. Should still be on 4od. The book is way better than the programme, it made me cry buckets when I first learned about pure ocd when I had post natal depression. Intrusive thoughts all my adult life, many around sexuality and relationships.

I "people watch" ALL the time. Not just women but both men and women. It's normal IMO.

That's my husband. He gets a great deal of love from men.

Well I'm a lesbian and I look at men occasionally and think they're attractive now and then & I consider that normal for me 😉

I do. I look at other women and how they dress. What suits different body shapes and how women carry themselves. That’s normal. I’m don’t fancy them though.

I check out other women to see what clothes they are wearing because I love fashion

I think women are generally far more aesthetically pleasing than men to look at. I rarely see attractive looking men. I'm straight, I've never been interested in women. I consider it normal, I've caught the eye of other women because they've been looking at me, happens a lot.

I do this too.

I'm quite bad for this. Straight, soon to be married female. But I do look at other women a lot. I try not to stare. I think a lot of it is comparison, or if someone is really attractive I might envy certain aspects of their looks. If they have bare legs my eyes get drawn to them - I think it's because I'm not used to seeing bare legs haha. And yes, I look at the clothes too. Wish I had the body to wear this or that. If I know them well enough I'll tell them I like their skirt or whatever. I like giving compliments.