Has anyone stayed with their partner from a young age?

[Sydney97]

Hi all, so i'm 22 and have been with my boyfriend for 7 years now.

Many people ask me if I'm bothered that I have missed out on the 'young single life' and if I feel that I am missing out by being with one boy for so long (the answer is no, I'm happy with him)

But I just wonder if there is anyone out there who has been with a boy from a young age and if it did or didn't work out? I'm interested to know other peoples experiences/stories :)

Hi

I met my fiance at 17, at school. We've been together for 11 years and are planning our wedding. I genuinely don't feel like I've missed out on anything, we were together at school, throughout uni and now own our own home - if anything I am glad to have so many shared memories with him and he really is my best friend.

However we do our own thing, and have our own friend groups - we don't have a group of couple friends so are still quite independent there, which I think helps. We've also never been an on-off couple, broke up and got back together etc.

Good luck with your relationship. I think it's more normal nowadays not to settle down so early, but as PP have shown, in the past it was normal to meet someone early in life and stick together through thick and thin!

Met at 18. Late 30s now.

My brother and his wife have been together since they were 16 and 17. They are now in their 60s having been married for over 40 years and have 5 grandchildren. Other brother been with his wife since they were 18, been married 45 years. My friend met her husband at school and had a few wobbles in their late teens/early 20s, mainly her as she felt she might be missing out, but they got married and are still together 30 years married but together nearly 40. It can work and some people just find the one really young.

I thi k if you 'grow up' together you end up with a very similar outlook and expectations for life. Often when people get together when they are older they are very set in their own ways and it can be difficult to gel.

I used to work for a local authority where the head of housing had met his wife when they were both 13, they got married at 16 and were very happy together in their 50's. They also had an amazing house as they had bought in what became a very expensive area when they were very young, before the prices went up.

I was 17, DH 18 when we met been together 30 years this month, married for 24.

PIL met when they were 13 and coming upto their 50th anniversary. My DP were 18 and were married 55 years before DM passed

My DH have been together since we were 20, not that young really I suppose, but I feel lucky that we met so early - I see it as extra time spent together.

From 18 to 31. Looking back I do feel like I missed out a bit. Not in regards to dating and sex (did a lot of that in my thirties) but I would have chosen more travel and adventure in my twenties if I would have been alone. Maybe work abroad for a bit, that sort of thing.

My husband and I got together when I was 17 and he was 20, we're now 33 and 36, married for four years and no break-ups or separations in the interim, not even when I had to move 150 miles away for work for 6 months. I don't feel like I missed out on anything, we've two kids and are very happy :)

DH and I got together in school. I’d just turned 16. We married when we were 28 and are now 39.
I love him so so much and I feel immensely loved. We have one son who’s in his teens and a lovely life. I’ve never missed not having more boyfriends and I’ve never wished we met later. I feel like we were just meant to be and that I am very fortunate.

DH and I were at school together. In a relationship from 16, married aged 26 and we’re now 34 with a 2 year old.

I definitely did not feel I’d missed out by being with him throughout college, uni and early 20s and have some amazing memories both with and without him!

Went out with the same bloke from when I was age 15 to 23. He was a couple of years older than me.

We went to the pictures together sometimes. Went to the pub together sometimes. Went for a walk sometimes. Stayed in together around our parents' houses all good. Passed our driving tests in the same year as each other. I fail to see what I missed out on.

However, after eight years together we were utterly sick of the sight of each other. He was after getting engaged, married etc. I didn't want him as a husband. Or, as it turned out, a boyfriend. Go on sling your hook.

I didn't want to be married to my, 'childhood sweet heart.'

I didn't want the kind of, 'bonding' experience' that a pp mentioned of, 'well we've been together so long.' As the Pat Benetar song goes, 'have we become a habit ?' Um, yes.

It's not that I couldn't bear to see him with some one else. I just wanted him gone ! I also couldn't care about him getting with some one else. We were at the, 'for Christ's sake, fuck off' stage with each other !

I was 18 and DH was 21 when we met, now in our mid 40s and still very happy overall

I really don't feel like I missed out, I had quite a few boyfriends between 16-18, we didn't get married until we were in our mid/late 20s and we had a bloody amazing time, travelling, clubbing/partying then building our careers.

We just work together, we share a very similar sense of humour/sarcasm, we enjoy the same things and he balances out my slightly manic 100 miles an hour side by being incredibly laid back.

I knew I could and in fact did do better for a husband. We've celebrated our silver wedding anniversary this year.

Ex-boyfriend has been recently widowed. For that I am genuinely sorry.

I've been with DH since a teenager, no exes, only had sex with each other etc. We are 30s now, so not at a point we can say "and it all worked out" I guess lol, but I have to say I love the simplicity of our relationship and the specialness of it. I love that we don't have any exes, I know it's really irrational but the thought of being with someone who has been with someone else is just so foreign to me. Cheating would be a solid line neither of us could get over I don't think because it sacrifices so much more than many other relationships. I love the fact we have grown up together and can reminisce about school, we've been in each other's lives for all of the big stuff from GCSEs. All of that means so much more to me than the enticement of "playing the field", yes we've missed out on some things, but what we've gained that few people have is worth so much more to me.

My advice to anyone in a young relationship is to live your life like you are single when you are young, what I mean by that is don't avoid big decisions like not going to university, not moving somewhere, not making a career move because it would be difficult for your relationship. Don't let yourself be held back, it may mean long distance, or challenging situations, but if it's meant to be it'll be, and if isn't you won't have any regrets not putting your life on hold. Resentment will eventually build if you don't live the life you want to live, and anybody who truly loves you will support your decisions, and vice versa.

Been together for over 31 years. We have lived in five different countries, had children later, travelled a lot so not sure what we missed out on..?

Been together since age 17/19, 21 years ago! Married for 15 with 2 kids and v happy

I met my husband when I was 18 (he was 21) but we didn't get together as a couple until I was 21. Fast forward to now and I'm almost 35 and we are still together and loved up 😍

I was 16, he was 23 when we started dating, together 19 years and married 13 so far, Still happy!

Met at 15/17, moved in together at 16, DD born at 17, Married at 20/23, DS arrived at 27 and still together now at 33/36. I can honestly say he saved my life and I wouldn't do a single thing differently.

Me and DP have been together 6 years since we were 16 and 19. My parents got together at that same age and are still going strong so I 100% think its possible. Also I dont feel like I missed out on the young single life, because I do other things like travel and renovate our house, just with my partner who I love

Met DH when I was 16, have been married for 19 years, I am now 44.

I'm 25 and last year so many couples I know that were together from a young age (including me and my then bf) broke up. However, my parents have been together since they were 17 & 19 and are still together and happy. They've had their ups and downs but they've manage to overcome things and grow together. I do think a lot of it's down to chance and wether or not you grow up in the same direction because you go through a lot of personal change from your teens to mid twenties.

Bit disturbing reading the 15 and 26. Sorry but a kid and adult. Only because when I was 15 I was groomed by someone of that age. Really hard for me not to wince reading some of these.

Been together since I was 16. I’m now mid 40’s. Coming up for our silver wedding anniversary. One teenage DD. DH is a bit older than me so did his lairy lads holidays before we met. I don’t once regret being with one person forever. We have a fabulous life together - a long carefree life before DD and a different but wonderful life with DD.