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Has anyone stayed with their partner from a young age?

125 replies

Sydney97 · 14/08/2019 23:38

Hi all, so i'm 22 and have been with my boyfriend for 7 years now.

Many people ask me if I'm bothered that I have missed out on the 'young single life' and if I feel that I am missing out by being with one boy for so long (the answer is no, I'm happy with him)

But I just wonder if there is anyone out there who has been with a boy from a young age and if it did or didn't work out? I'm interested to know other peoples experiences/stories :)

OP posts:
Oneforposy7 · 15/08/2019 08:15

DH and I got together at 17, married at 25. Now at nearly 31 and almost 14 years later. I can honestly say I'm very, very happily married and have no desire for anything or anyone else (and he would say the same!).

Bluntness100 · 15/08/2019 08:15

15 is very young, so I see the concern. I was twenty when I met my husband, I'm now fifty.

But at twenty I'd kissed a lot of frogs and had some fun. So yes. Maybe you have missed out, but, if you're happy then it's a small price to pay

dancinginthekitchen · 15/08/2019 08:16

DH and I have been together since we were 20 and we are now both 60 (celebrating DH 60th at the weekend!) and will have been married 38 years next month

MumbleLumble · 15/08/2019 08:17

I was 18 and DP 20 when we met. We are still together 10 years later, married and I'm pregnant with our third (and last!)

Aragog · 15/08/2019 08:18

Dh and I met at 16y in lower sixth. Been together since. Not 46y and married for 21y with a 17y Dd.

Don't feel we've missed out on anything. Very happy with life.

Ivalueloyaltyaboveallelse · 15/08/2019 08:19

We were 18, now 33

louisvootin · 15/08/2019 08:19

I am a bit surprised at the amount of people who were under 16 with older partners. Did things like that not matter back in the day?
Not ment to sound judgy just genuinely curious.

healthylifestylee · 15/08/2019 08:19

Met at 16 and now I'm 20 so 4 years with the same person which is starting to seem rare for the generation I was born into - happy as ever and wouldn't change a thing. We live together and started long distance

saffy1234 · 15/08/2019 08:19

Yes me x

rubberduckyyouretheone · 15/08/2019 08:20

Met at 21 and still very much together. Early 40s now.

yogafailure · 15/08/2019 08:20

I've been with my DH since we were both 15. We got married after 7 years and celebrated our silver wedding last year. We're 50 next year, 3 dcs over a decade....happy as ever in our own wee bubble.

The interest other people have when they hear our background like we care/it has anything to do with them Mainly people projecting their own agendas or trying to justify the choices they made. Good for them, we're happy as we are.

LuckyKitty13 · 15/08/2019 08:21

Got together as 20. First ever relationship. Still together 10 years later, married and children. Hes wonderful. Only man I've ever known. I have only missed out on heartache!

MrPan · 15/08/2019 08:22

Sister met b-i-l when she was 17. About to celebrate 39th wedding anniversary. She is as happy as Larry. Though b-i-l isn't actually called Larry.

meepmoop · 15/08/2019 08:24

Me and DH have been together since we were 13 now 28. We have a DS and are expecting our second.

I don't feel like I've missed out on anything and are really happy.

CherryPavlova · 15/08/2019 08:25

Met at 17 but weren’t a couple until a few years later - about 24 - now the wrong side of 55. Still very happy and no regrets. We look forward to a fun retirement together.

MsTSwift · 15/08/2019 08:40

Some couples just meet the right person very young for others they cling together as both too frightened to launch out and should have split years ago. A bright attractive friend of my sisters is married to an utter twat she began dating at 14.

Apricotjamsndwich · 15/08/2019 09:03

My upbringing taught me relationships never last so I regarded the relationship I had from 15 to 20 as doomed and disposable - still regret that a billion years later.

thaegumathteth · 15/08/2019 09:05

Been with dh since I was 19 (he was 22 though and had definitely ‘enjoyed’ his youth). We’ve been together 19 years this year, married 15 with 2 kids.

TubbyMonkeh · 15/08/2019 09:07

Split at 30 as we thought the grass would be greener, got complacent, curious about what else was out there.

Back together now, there's no one else for me. He's my heart.

20viona · 15/08/2019 09:08

We got together at 16 and we got married 18 months ago and have a baby. We are 29.

AmateurSwami · 15/08/2019 09:09

Yes, since 17 here, 33 now. I’m happy with my choice

Gladimnotcampinginthisweather · 15/08/2019 09:11

We were 19 and 20 when we met, married at 20 and 21. Still together at 66 and 67. Smile

Magpiefeather · 15/08/2019 09:12
  1. We have both changed a lot but alongside each other.

Never felt any longing for “the single life”- was just happy with (now) DH.

Amber2019 · 15/08/2019 09:19

My parents were 14 and 16, both around 50 now, still together, perfectly fine although I think they are too dependant on each other because they have never experienced anything without the other, nights out, holidays etc. That's their relationship though. I always said I would never want the same relationship as them though and I dont, that's more to do with them as people than the age they met though I think. But yes it can work. My aunt and uncle were teens too and 20 odd years later still strong and obviously grandparents but that's normal for their generation.

Gladimnotcampinginthisweather · 15/08/2019 09:36

Louisvootin probably not. My sister was 15 and her husband 24 when they started going out. My mother thought it was great because he already had a good job. Times have changed a lot since the 1970s.

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