Shagged and pied

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He's married so it's karma I guess but it bloody stings. I feel sorry for his wife.
He's now blocked and I feel like I want to destroy him

Pied means dropped and ignored

I had an image of a post coital comedy pie in the face

I thought it might have been a typo...peed? Some are ok with it.

It is pretty much the emotional equivalent of that bouncing

I'd tell his wife op - she deserves to know. I don't think you are at fault here - he didn't tell you he was married. Tell her - he's a liar and a cheat.

You’ve done nothing wrong, he has. Just be thankful you’re not married to him I guess. I would probably not tell the wife, I wouldn’t want to get embroiled in their drama. Move on with your life.

I would want to know. Even if my world is ripped apart. What made you guess was it him not being completely available.

Just shiftiness and contact on his terms inconsistent for instance

I am gunning for him

I'd tell her if it was me. 😕

OP, send a message to the wife and say that your sister/best friend wanted you to know XYZ and that her husband did not say he was married.

Say, your sister/friend is really upset for her and didn’t want to send the message herself so has asked you to do it.

People always shoot the messenger, so you could give her the information and she can change her life for the better with a cheating wanker like that in her life.

OP, I was the wife. I wish someone had told me much earlier than when I found out.

You won't be ripping her world apart. He'll already be provoking arguments etc to help him justify to himself what he did. She'll already be feeling like something is wrong but not know what.

He already ripped her world apart, she's just in the misery of limbo until it comes out.

She deserves to have the information so that she can make informed decisions about her health and her relationship

Tell her....she needs to know her husband is a dirty dog. Also, get yourself checked out thoroughly. Who knows how many and who he's done it with before?!

I agree . Does he have any identifying marks/moves in bed which would show you truly "know .' Your ex man ? If so .,Tell her and she can make her own decision.

Please tell her. If you want to feel morally better... If that's a thing then you've got to tell her.
Am ex tried to keep meeting up etc saying be loved me did a bit of fcbook stalking found he'd just had a baby.
Told his girlfriend she was forever grateful and sounded like she had her suspicions. Do the right thing

I really thought this was going to be about a black and white seabird from the antipodes.

Send her a message with evidence (screenshots from his number) or else he’ll lie his way out of it x

Did you know him for long?

I am gunning for him. Why? He’s not coming back and you wouldn’t want him if he did. Just move on.

How long were you seeing him before you found out?

I'd tell his wife, why should he get off so easily? Also, if I was his wife, I'd want to know. But I would contact her anonymously, give enough information for her to work out who you are. That way you don't get any drama off the back of it.

• I'm mean give enough info so she can work out you're telling the truth but doesn't know who you are.

Fan, stop beating yourself up. You didn’t know.

Do the right thing. Tell his wife and send some evidence. She deserves to know the true state of her life and marriage. He likely cheats on her regularly and is jeopardizing her health.

I’m sorry that you’ve had this shock. This man is a despicable specimen.

Pied?

Pied wagtail?

Made a pie?

Can i offer you some hope OP?

I recently NEARLY slept with a married man. He'd been wooing me for some time before telling me he was married so my feelings were all stirred up and it was hard to back off. Eventually i did, blocked, and i very shortly after met another really nice single guy who is a much better fuckbuddy with actual time to see ME, not furtively fit me in so just force yourself to move on and get out there!