Midwife tommorow and mostly worried about one thing.. someone help?

[Sjoe456]

Okay this is a little embarrassing.. but you know what fuck it were all human.. so I have my midwife tommorow for the first time and I'm very anxious as I know they ask everything. In February 2016 I had an ex boyfriend and sorry for the TMI but he done oral on me and a few days later I got cold sores down there and went to doctors and was told it was HSV type 1 which is mostly just mouth cold sores! I am 10 weeks pregnant on saturday.. and I THINK I'm having an outbreak now but theres no sores my lady area is just very swollen especially in the middle and a bit at the side.. and feels a bit painful.. but I read online that sometimes pregnancy can cause thrush or u can get swollen down there but it's hard to know, as since I was told I had that 3 and a half years I have had I think 2 outbreaks I think and really it was my own fault as I wore to tight Jean's and it sort of irritated it. Now I've been with a guy for 2 years (the baby daddy) and in the past I have tried to tell him about it I said I got this thing a wile ago cause my ex went down on me and it gave me cold sores down there.. and he sort of just panned it off then a few weeks ago I said to him again "Ill have to tell the midwife about the thing I had down there it's just like cold sores basically but its type 1 which is the better type and he goes omg you have herpes then he goes haha joking not a big deal and that was the last we ever talked about it... will I have to say to my midwife tommorow and will the doctors say infront of my boyfriend In the future?? Everytime I try talk about it he just sort of pans it off but I'd rather have a mature convo about it.. we have been together two years and he has never had any symptoms. Thank u guys for listening

And I obviously agreed as I was on the pill at the stage

I’ve worked in health care in South America and there HSV2 is the oral type, and HSV 1 the genital type. Treatment and diagnosis are exactly the same as U.K.
It’s cold sores when it’s on your mouth and herpes when it’s on your genitalia no matter which Hsv is where.

I didnt even get it from sex which is annoying it was from oral.

What? Why is it annoying? What difference does it make? Oral sex is sexual activity.

It's far more common than you think.

As many as 70% of the population may have some type of herpes:

www.netdoctor.co.uk/conditions/sexual-health/a2204/genital-herpes/

Also some info and tips here about managing it:

www.nhs.uk/conditions/genital-herpes/

I hope it helps you to stop worrying.

Alex it's annoying because then I wouldnt have it?? And wouldnt have the anxiety I have now. Haha. But it is very common . . I've only had like 2 since febuary 2016

Honesty with your midwife means you'll get the correct care. It's as simple as that.

Yeah and I'll take acyclovir 4 weeks before due date, sure that anti viral doesnt effect the baby in any way and it's safe?? X

the only thing you may find is it may be written on your notes when they list your relevant previous medical history - normally it would just be a code saying something like #
abc - diabetic
gh1 - familiy history of heart disease
t6y - previous STI.

They will be very not judgey about it. They'll just make sure you get any relevant treatment. If you're worried you can ask them specifically to only discuss it when your partner is not present. Or you could ask them to explain to your partner any relevant implications of it to help minimise chances of passing it on

Will they think I'm a dick though if I tell them not to say infront of my partner? I dont know why but I find it really embarrassing

Hi, NICU nurse here...please do tell your midwife,and please do seek treatment if you have an outbreak while pregnant,it most definitely can cause issues with your baby if untreated,and trust me it is not a nice thing for your baby to go through,when it can be easily treated. You will also be offered antivirals closer to delivery,but being open and honest is the most important thing. If you are mature enough to have a baby,then you must be mature enough to put that baby first and ensure you are correctly treated without feeling embarrassed.

If I get an outbreak while I'm pregnant can it cause a missciarage? Or harm the baby in the womb

OP - how old are you?
You sound like a teenager.
At your stage - one should be thinking about the baby and whether it might affect it.
You - on the other hand - are concerned with your baby daddy finding out you have herpes.
And the image impact....
Mind boggles.

You have herpes. You should NOT have been having unprotected with anyone. Pill or not.
And any man who insists on unprotected from the start - has had it w/o a condom with EVERYONE else he has slept with.
Why on earth would anyone agree to expose themselves to that level of risk....
Unless of course you both have run fill STI checks before and there is enough trust for monogamy....
However - in that case he’d have known about your herpes.
As I said - mind boggles.

If you have a daughter - please teach her about safe sex practices.

Acyclovir is safe in the last 4 weeks of pregnancy otherwise it wouldn't be prescribed. Active herpes (yes, you do have herpes) can cause serious damage to your baby if you have a flare up during delivery and birth - although the risk is low, it is still a risk.

You need to read up about the virus and educate your boyfriend too. You say he 'pans it off' - presumably he doesn't think it's a big deal? Well, it can be.

I'm 24! I dont mean to seem immature just worrying and dont want my boyfriend judging me, although I have told him twice, were engaged and all and in it for the long term, 4 weeks before birth how long do u take the acyclovir for?? The last 2 flare ups I had I only had them for like 3 days x

OP - yes it can cause damage to your baby resulting in skin lesions and other complications if not treated. Please seek proper medical advice,and protect yourself and your baby.

Even in the womb ? I have no blisters or nothing just a swollen vagina that's all x

Not excusing the lack of condoms but herpes can be passed on skin to skin, regardless of condom use.

Definitely tell the midwife, I can’t imagine a circumstance where they would announce it to your partner.

OP - Why not just speak to your midwife,she can actually tell you if you have an active outbreak and treat you accordingly,surely putting your mind at rest... none of us can tell you if your outbreak is herpes or not,only that yes it can cause damage to your baby in the womb both before or during delivery.

Your midwife will ask all sorts of questions, you need to answer them all honestly so you and baby can be safe and healthy. They won't be shocked or judge you for anything. They've heard it all before.

You have an STI that you know about and you had unprotected sex without telling your sexual partner. Is that what happened? Right.....

@bertrandrussel if u took the time to read the post I have told him but he never took it as a big deal at all but I dont think he completely understood what it is I think he thinks it's just an infection.. will my midwife tommorow check down there and be able to tell me ??

Yes she will. Be open and honest. For the sake of your baby.

“@bertrandrussel if u took the time to read the post I have told him but he never took it as a big deal at all but I dont think he completely understood what it is”. I did read the post. It is your responsibility to make sure he does understand. And it sounds as if you don’t want him to or you wouldn't be so concerned about the midwife talking about it in front of him. I think you are behaving very badly here.

I'm not behaving badly just tryna get advice also if u read up I also say after the midwife tommorow I'm gonna explain properly to him

I defjnitly will be honest the baby is the number 1, I'll post an update tommoroe after wards!! Xx