Birthday rituals for boyfriend

[Ruby789]

Hi all,

I'm in a new relationship and his birthday is coming up (mine is after his). I want to start a birthday tradition/ritual, but I've never had that before. I'm thinking something cute, funny. I don't know really.

Anyone do anything, or does your OH do something for you?

I was inspired by this thread, and want to make sure that we have stuff we do that's 'just us' that's weird, quirky, whatever ...

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/mumsnet_classics/2349671-The-cute-weird-rituals-jokes-you-do-with-your-DP?pg=1&messages=25

How new is your relationship? Quirky, weird things usually develop in a relationship that’s been going for a while where people have reached a comfortable enough point to be weird and quirky with each other IMO. They’re not things that are planned out.

We were friends (not super close) for 5 years first, dating 7 months. We have some silly stuff already, but nothing for birthdays and Christmas, we just kind of acknowledged them after the fact before now. Now I want to start a 'thing'. This will be the first year where we are together so a card and gift is nice, but I want a card gift and for him to wake up as I throw confetti at him or something daft. He's never been made a fuss of before, and tbh neither have I.

Balloons all around the room?

It's maybe a bit contrived to try and think of one. These things usually just happen due to a funny incident or something.

Well, you know him so you know best what would appeal to him. Random people on the internet can’t really tell you what would make him laugh/happy.

Although I know that if I had thrown confetti in the faces of any of my ex-boyfriends they would have thought I was a twat. I would hate it if someone did this to me as well.

He’d probably enjoy a tradition of morning sex and a full English breakfast much more than any novelty nonsense.

I know spontaneity would be best. But I'm unlikely to have anything just to hand without a plan because we don't live together.

My friends do a treasure hunt. Its a tradition they've had since their first birthdays together and it's great. I dont want to copy that, would be weird.

Balloons could work, I could blow them up while he's sleeping and then they'll be there in the morning.

Why give yourself the pressure op?

He’d probably enjoy a tradition of morning sex and a full English breakfast much more than any novelty nonsense.

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My DH would find a treasure hunt a bit weird and same for balloons. Depends on the fella but I don't know many that would go for that.

Sounds like you're planning a 5 years old's birthday to be completely honest.

If you threw confetti at me when I woke up you would likely get a slap.

If you don't live together or have any dcs together yet then I agree it sounds a bit weird.

Once you're a committed couple you can make your own traditions around birthdays etc. Honestly right now is too soon. You don't have enough history.

Fair point.

I just wanted to do more than a card and a gift. Something unique.

Morning sex and a full English is every weekend.

Well he’s a lucky boy already. Don’t over think it. Hope he has a great day!

You know him best lovely..if you think he'd respond well to something, go for it. Its not childish or odd, its very sweet. We have silly traditions which I began when we had our first birthdays and Christmases, anniversaries etc. How about something little like staggering small gifts, silly gifts that are relevant to you, throughout the day evening. Or one present you made yourself. Something not too out there, but enough to make a tradition from?

My parents do this thing where they get given a card in the morning telling them where they are going for breakfast, then at breakfast they get given another card saying where they are going next (such as going for a walk on the beach), then at the next point another card etc etc.. they have a full fun day out and I've probably not explained it that well but it's really cute!

Now that I would like lavender

You really can't force these things. If you do, you'll end up making things less fun. Our couple 'traditions' are:

-Rewatching all the Harry Potter films during advent and the last one on Xmas Eve
-Cauliflower cheese with Christmas dinner
-Opening a present early on Xmas Eve

• Going to the same restaurant for a birthday brunch

But these are all things that we just realised had become tradition and carried them on after they were established. Don't focus on making things Insta worthy. Picture perfect photos and activities are always crap in real life because they're ruined by the effort they take instead of just enjoying the moment.

Honestly, they'll just happen in time

Unique and quirky perhaps the most misused words 🙄

I get it OP. Me and DH have been together 7 years and I've always done balloons and birthday banners for him (the same ones every year actually, the banners are made of card and come out every year). We always have traditional birthday breakfast in this house too which is warm croissants and orange juice in a champagne flute. Neither of us planned these things though, the balloons and banners were spontaneous and the breakfast is just something we like on special occasions.

Why don’t you decorate a jar / box and put 12 months of treats in, written on paper, and if his birthday is say the 5th month, every 5th let him choose one randomly & do it. It could be simple things like visit the cinema, dinner out, massage, picnic, visit the beach, zoo etc. That way you can add to it each year and include his favourite things. And you have a date organised every month!

We love birthdays.. the birthday person gets to decide everything that happens on the day. It always starts with presents in bed with coffee then lush breakfast and a day out and about..

Are you sure he likes birthdays ?

Some people are such miserable tears on this forum! 😂
You sound nice op like another poster suggested it normally just comes from being comfortable within a relationship.

Twats*