Birthday rituals for boyfriend

[Ruby789]

Hi all,

I'm in a new relationship and his birthday is coming up (mine is after his). I want to start a birthday tradition/ritual, but I've never had that before. I'm thinking something cute, funny. I don't know really.

Anyone do anything, or does your OH do something for you?

I was inspired by this thread, and want to make sure that we have stuff we do that's 'just us' that's weird, quirky, whatever ...

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/mumsnet_classics/2349671-The-cute-weird-rituals-jokes-you-do-with-your-DP?pg=1&messages=25

Booze for breakfast, like mimosa, or Bellini?

I hate contrived quirkiness, so that all sounds excruciating.

Food and sex are the annual rituals you want to be starting here.

Second and third birthday I was with my OH we went on day trips for his birthday (always involving a brewery) 4th year went overnight stay and this year a few days. We split the costs though

We always start the birthday day with the birthday cake. Eg I wake dp up by coming into the bedroom with a tray of cards/presents/cake singing happy birthday. Then dp blows out the candles and we have a cup of tea and a slice of cake in bed while opening cards/presents.

It’s lush because it starts the day of with a birthday theme feel and you can do the tradition even if you have to work that day.

Usually part of a present is something for the day eg new perfume or something to wear.

Don’t try too hard. These things will come in time.

Starting the day with cake and fizz sounds good - even if just a cupcake with a candle and small bottle of fizz/bottle of his favourite beer/cocktail etc. Or his favourite food but with a candle in.

Do a double take on things like glitter or streamers - especially if you are the one that is going to clean it up and cursing bits of it that inevitably reappear for the next year. 😆

I'm with you, OP, we like birthday traditions; the sillier the better! Don't overthink it, but just try something. If he likes surprises, so much the better.

I mentioned it on the other thread, but our long-standing birthday tradition is that I'm allowed to be there while he makes my cake, decorates the room and wraps my presents. It's all happening in front of me, I just can't see it because I'm blindfolded. It's a silly tradition, but it's very personal to us.

Why do you feel the need to impress him so much ?

An easy one to start that’s not too difficult or forced is a birthday selfie in a particular place or pose (alone and together) with a birthday hat or balloon or badge or bow tie or something that you can reuse and repeat each year (for both your birthdays!).

If the can be as similar a pose as possible then when you look back at them ten years down the line you can sort of morph them from one to another to see how you change over time... I have similar pix of the dc cutting their cake at home in the kitchen - and if they have a party or other celebration I’ll often get another small family sized cake to have the pix in the same place each year - lovely to look back on. And if you do have number candles remember to turn them around to be right for the pic and not the blower out! Picture works much better then!

Thank you for the lovely ideas. I will think on it a bit, as so many people seem to think it's an odd thing to do, now I feel weird about it.

I'm not trying to impress him, I just want to make this birthday somewhat different to the others when we weren't together. And different from the rest of our time together. Its early in the relationship so sex and food is pretty much the bulk of what we do.

Had I met him only 7 months ago I would probably not feel this way. Because we are nearly 6 years into knowing each other, I don't (didn't) feel like its too soon to make 'us' behaviours.

Blindfolded while someone makes a cake? As a treat? That genuinely is one of the weirdest things I’ve ever read on here. And let’s face it, the bar is set pretty high.

I do a lucky dip style gift for my dp, get an empty box, like a shoe box, fill it with wrapped gifts, seal it with a hole cut in the top for him to pull things out. I buy him a selection of random gifts that he likes, I always include a daim bar as they're his favourite, the stretchy flesh tunnels he wears in his ears and his big gift is usually tickets to something/day out. He takes me shopping 😂

My mum always gets my dad a pair of silly socks and a Terry's chocolate orange and he always gets her an overly cutesy card and fills it with a lovely paragraph, usually a memory he has of their relationship.

@Houseofmirth66 So says everyone else who knows about it. But that's why we like it, because we doubt if anyone else does it! It's a treat to me because I like mystery, and hearing what's going on: it's more fun than being banished from the room, or him doing it while I'm not in the house. It started with him jokingly accusing me of "micromanaging" while he was setting up my birthday once before, and he said I'll have to blindfold you. I replied "go on, then!" So he did, and it became a birthday tradition.

Man alive some of you posters are pure nasty!

OP - whilst I agree that traditions usually come naturally as the relationship develops, they still have to start somewhere.

Why not a small cake for breakfast with a candle, morning sex, proper breakfast then you can spend the day somewhere nice?

You sound lovely and he’s lucky to have you.
Don’t let the posters on here put you off

Oh and I once filled DP’s entire hallway with balloons and he loved it not all men hate stuff like that!

What a lot of kill joys on this thread. How MN has changed so much in 4 years that a similar thread 4 years ago can be filled with 16 pages and nominated multiple times for Classics and now it's just groan and moan and bitch. What a sad life some of you must have

My friend did a treasure hunt (just around the house) for his newish girlfriend and she loved that. He enjoyed thinking of the clues but had to cross his fingers she wouldn't have a late night craving for something that needed microwaving or to use the washing machine in the middle of the night. And she enjoyed dragging out the wait for her presents.

My DH always gets me a Halloween themed balloon because that is my BD and I always get him a blue balloon for him. He also always makes me a hand made card out of a cornflake packet or somesuch and it always has a stegasaurus and a pylon. Every year without fail is the steggo and the pylon. I have no idea why any of this, it has just developed.