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Husband took non consenting nudes of me

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Quirkyfox3 · 30/07/2019 21:15

In april I found pictures that my husband took of me while sleeping (passed out...we had a night out) naked, it was zoomed right in on my privates, I also found pictures where he would photoshop my face on other naked womens bodies, and videos of me getting dressed in the mornings. I told him about it, and felt that I could forgive him even though it was the second time this has happened and I have forgiven him before. Fast forward to now, I found emails of him on live webcam porn sites, 8this awakened these feelings again, now he is angry and sad that I am having a very hard time forgiving him. I am horrified that he might have.posted them online, he swears he hasnt..but I cant trust him anymore. I feel all my emotions all mingled together. Im sad, angry, disgusted, dissapointed and horrified all at once...he keeps appologising...but I dont know if this can be fixed, I hurt so much inside...I cant even look at him. I want to leave him but he keeps saying we can fix this...I dont think I can or even want to. I asked him to move out, he says its only for a few days, he is going to stay with his mum, because I need space, now she thinks I have kicked him out of our house, and that I am being unreasonable, but she does not know the truth..only what he has told her

OP posts:
SummerInTheVillage · 31/07/2019 20:56

Leave. It can only get worse.

Benjispruce · 31/07/2019 20:56

I can’t believe you forgave him before. I hope you don’t have children with him.

Quirkyfox3 · 31/07/2019 20:59

I have a 13 y/o DS with him yes.

OP posts:
Benjispruce · 31/07/2019 21:02

Oh . That does complicate things for you in that you can’t just make a clean breakfast and. But it wouldn’t change my decision to leave, I have to say. This is what you know about. If he’s dabbling in that world, it could be very serious indeed and you need to protect your DS.

Benjispruce · 31/07/2019 21:02

A clean break not breakfast. Stupid autocorrect!

VenusTiger · 31/07/2019 21:25

I wonder if the panic attack reveals he may be hiding more than you know @Quirkyfox3

If you report him, police can investigate whether he’s put any photos he took of you online, then you can take it from there or drop charges.

His mum needs to know the jist imo as he’s living under her roof.

Can you go into a police station and speak to an officer in confidence?

Has he taken his pc/laptop with him?

VenusTiger · 31/07/2019 21:27

Also @Quirkyfox3 his laptop needs to be investigated as you don’t want revenge on his part iywsim.

Get police involved.

MonroeM · 31/07/2019 22:19

Oh what an awful situation. Quite sickening. This husband seems now to be playing the victim which is all too common when found out so to the OP I say have no sympathy there and do not let him manipulate you into feeling sorry for him in any way at all.

Looks like there will be a lot of shit to deal with and an unpleasant time ahead but the first thing is to make damn sure he does not sleep under the same roof as you and your child ever again.

You can go to a police station and ask to have a private talk with an officer. He will advise you on the best course of action. If you are reluntant to involve the police at this or any stage then I really do not know how this can be sorted but I repeat do not let him wear you down with any sob self pitying stores.

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