He asked about my mother's sex life??! WTF?!!

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Went on a date yesterday with a chap I've been chatting to via text for about 6 weeks. He seemed ok and he spoke about his daughter's and showed me photos. They were teens. I then showed him a pic of my daughter who is 22 and he said "woohhaoaooh! She's sexy!". It was a head and shoulder shot so I thought it was a bit bizarre, but tried to put his comment to the back of my mind.
Later on during the lunch, we spoke about our families and he said "so do you think your mum (she's 74) is still sexually active?".
Am I being too prudish or shall I run for the hills?!!!

Well, I’m clearly going against the grain here, but I don’t think what he said about your daughter was THAT bad. It’s not like he made explicit sexual suggestions about her. She’s an adult, and he said she was sexy - some people use that to mean attractive. I have commented to my boyfriend about the attractiveness of his adult children. I may have used the word “sexy” - I can’t remember. I do not even remotely have any desire to have sex with any of them.......

OP, this just goes to show how pointless it is to spend ages chatting before meeting. This 'decent' man you talk about only ever existed as an internet persona. If only you had arranged a date quickly, you'd have seen what he was really like and saved yourself a month of pointless image control (on his part) and fantasy relationship (on yours).

And please ignore anyone who thought it was acceptable to call your daughter 'sexy'. It is beyond creepy, and is NOT a synonym for 'attractive' - otherwise why didn't he say 'attractive' FFS.

He sounds like an absolute dirt bag 🙈

I’d have left straight away after the comment about your daughter. That’s disgusting. Fair enough if he said she was beautiful, pretty etc but sexy!!. He sounds disgusting

And bear in mind, OP, that even the Cool People haven't mentioned him talking about your Mum's sex life.

You are not a prude.

My ex made inappropriate comments about my DD who he hadn't even met. No man goes down those paths if he isn't a total sleaze bag. You're better off without him. Your family certainly is.

So much porn these days is along the lines of sexy stepdaughter

Yes and i bet this scratcher spends a large chunk of his time beating his meat to them.

How revolting 🤢🤢

On reflection, it’s best he voiced his weirdness OP, as imagine if you’d fallen for him and had him round your house!! He may have been eyeing up your daughter and you’d have been non the wiser.

If you ever feel uncomfortable like that in future, you really need to say you don’t appreciate that comment/suggestion/action and that you’re going to leave calmly now. And just get up, mid meal or not, and leave.

@tinyvulture the word sexy has the word sex in it for a reason!

Actually, I'm no troll. For 6 weeks I've been chatting to him and he seemed like a real gent. Very lovely, articulate and "normal".

Aaaah but they show their true colours eventually!

HORRIBLE man! You dodged a bullet there!

If he asks why you have stopped contacting him tell him it is because he came across as a pervert. And not to contact you again.

I understand you not wanting to leave mid meal as it's unnecessarily dramatic. But with online dating, IMO I wouldn't spend weeks getting to know someone like you have on the phone because you build a character in your head and it doesn't always match the person IRL. I've done it! Met a guy I really liked after weeks of chatting and he reminded me of Austin Powers in person and I wasn't attracted to him at all then!

Then I started meeting people for coffee after a week of chatting. You're able to leave very easily if you don't like the make them then!

What's the point of your post?

Pretty clear cut known him weeks no emotional attachment to him, block him move on. I dont see what you want posters to advise you on or give support with?