Im not really a catch

[RedHeadDiana]

I used to be but now im a single mum with bad IBS, anxiety and depression. Is it sad not being a catch?!

And there's a bloke out there who would love to cuddle up on your sofa and make you nice foods you can eat. Dont lose hope x

Eh?! Why would those things stop you being attractive to other people?

You're not a fish - so stop trying to be one

erm i shit myself?

Low carbing has completely cured my IBS after years of suffering. Also FODMAP diet is worth a try. If you're going to wallow a bit, at least do it without the painful shits

You don't want to be a catch. It's an awful concept.

erm i shit myself?

Right? I could tell you a few things in my own life, it doesnt stop my husband loving me.

You're looking at this the wrong way - there's far more to you then that, I'm sure of it! Think of all your lovely qualities

I'm massively overweight and have a heart issue that can impact sex , but I'm also very funny, loyal, caring and a damn catch

Its surprising what some people are more than happy to look past, and what things some people would view as deal breakers.

I love a redhead & would look past all the other things OP. You stand out in more ways than one.

I am a lone parent to 2 kids. Have anxiety and depression, doctors says it could be ptsd so now looking at.

Dp loves me to bits.

Sorry, posted too soon.

Just because you have some health issues doesnt mean someone wouldnt be lucky to have you

You may well be all those things but I know you're also a damn sight more! I'm willing to bet you're really kind & funny too, and patient. Possibly even fun to be with :)

Look at your positives as well as your perceived negatives!

Stop it op. Bet your a lovley person so what if you shit yourself honey we all done it at some point

Im defo not patient hahaha

i just dont think im cut out for relationships

Surely none of us are cut out for relationships with 99% of the humans on earth. I certainly couldn't bear to live with most of them. Fortunately DH;s weird crap and my weird crap work together.

And turns out DD's and DDog's do too.

im hard work aswell. Do people like me really succeed?!?

I feel the same. Also a single mum. I don't have ibs, but I do struggle with some anxiety and get SAD.

I'm an attractive woman, work hard, am down to earth and have lovely dc. Despite this, I'm not a catch. I recently signed up to OLD and feel well out of my depth.

I don't drive - am saving towards lessons and a car.
I'm not well travelled at all, though have a broad scope on life, having a varied background.
I don't have time for hobbies or to go out and have fun. Dc's father doesn't really feature in their lives/lives across country.

Although I have friends who I occasionally catch up with, I am lonely and would love o experience passionate love and romance again.

😭

pointless online dating terrifies me

Red, I'm not sure I'm going to stay on it. Have heard too many stories about being bombarded with dick pics!

What site do you use?

Only Tinder so far.

I'm really lazy too

As long as you give good bj's @red then many men will look past everything else.

That was meant as a joke btw. It does seem as if you are on a downer & nothing people say will help. It doesn't do you any good to wallow in self pity. The only way things will change is if you make that change.

You have to throw the stone to get the pond to ripple.