Do you know your OH phone passwords?

[Wolfie26]

I was just wondering if other people know their partner's phone passwords? My partner (together 4 years) knows mine but I don't know his. He uses his thumb print to unlock his phone and when we spoke about it recently (after he received some slightly odd texts from another woman) he made noises about how he didn't have a password on it because of this. I have Face ID on my phone but I still had to set up a back up password.

Do most people tend to know their partner's password? I don't want to snoop through his phone but not knowing makes me wonder if there is something to hide or if I just need to trust him more.

We have the same one, ds name

Yes: I know his, and he asked me to put my fingerprint into it so I can unlock it, too. I have an old dinosaur phone with no password that anyone at all can pick up and sift through.

We know each others' logins/passwords for unlocking each others' computers, signing into websites, etc.

Yes and I've taught his phone my fingerprints too!

DH's phone doesn't have to be unlocked and neither does mine.

I know his email passwords and he knows mine

I know his. He doesn't know mine. No reason, he's just never asked

Kind of!
I keep forgetting it. Sometimes I might be asked to look something up or send a message to someone but I always have to be reminded of the code. I can remember the first digit that's about all!!

Yes, we have the same passcode as it's easier. We use whichever phone is closest, be it his or mine and we kept forgetting each other's codes so we felt the same one would be easier lol

We never snoop through each other's phones though. Just use them to google stuff/make phone calls.

Yes we know, if mines ran out of charge I'll use his and likewise he'll use mine sometimes.

Well I knew all my ex's passwords. I knew his phone unlock, his account logins, usernames, passwords, the lot. We frequently used each other's phones and laptops, just for convenience.

Fat lot of good it did me. He has all sorts of secret apps hidden on his phone, alternative email accounts, an online presence under unknown usernames, the lot. He was up to shit you couldn't even imagine, and yet he was the "perfect" partner and father and was never so much as late home from work. Turns out lunch breaks are long, holiday covers half days and who doesn't have to travel with work every now and then?

I think not knowing is fine because at least you know if there's anything there it's only hidden behind a phone login, and if you ask and they won't show you, well, that's something. But if you know all someone's passwords all you know is that there's no point scrolling through their messages when they're in the bathroom. Never rely on what you do and don't know; gut instinct every time.

No. Doubt he knows mine.

But i also never have this situation i read on MN about using each others phone to take photos/make calls/google something. In the unlikely event of my phone dying/losing it i would just say "Dh google this for me" or whatever.

I know his, he knows mine. No real reason other than it's handy for borrowing each other's phones.

Of course I do,I use this phone all the time. Sometimes my phone is dead or upstairs and I need to quickly do something so grab his. He does the same. Nothing private on our phones !!

I dont think it gives people the security they think it does.

There are loads of apps that you can hide stuff in, make the app hidden in your phone so your partner doesn't suspect anything.

I use * his phone all the time

Yes. We both use the same passcode, it's sort of a family one. We never feel the need to use or check each other's phones.

Yes we know each other’s passwords, fingerprints are on both phones. We also share location with each other

I dont think it gives people the security they think it does.

It really doesn't, it makes mugs of us to think it gives you any security at all. I was that smug fool proclaiming how own our whole lives were to each other, and now when I hear other women say the same I just have to smile and shrug.

If someone's going to hide stuff from you they're either going to be shit at it or they're going to be good. If they're good you won't know. You either trust them because you trust them or you don't. Sometimes that trust is well placed, sometimes it isn't. You take your chances in love and pay attention to the red flags when you see them, that's all you can do.

We're so lazy we use the same passcode for phones and iPads. We also have a different one to phones but the same for our bank cards. Just means if we pick the wrong one up we can still use them.

@Wolfie26 all phones have passcodes, finger print doesn't always work and you have to put passcode it...

I know DH password and my fingerprint is on his phone to. He's not very tech savvy so I go on his phone a lot to help him with work stuff!

crankyass

Agreed, as a teen i was in a relationship similar, knew his passwords he knew mine, no secrets yada yada.

Fucker had a different phone and number! LIke you say, if they want to hide something they will find a way.

Yes, we know each other’s and DD’s password as well.

I used to until we split and he then went on to have a brief fling with someone else. Changed his pass code etc and kept his phone glued to him when he came to house to discuss things etc. We are trying again and he’s changed his pass code again but told me what it was in a “check something for me” when he was driving. I think he knew I didn’t want to ask but wanted me to know he didn’t mind me having it. He’s not secretive with his phone anymore and I have not checked it once as I 100% believe he wants to be with me and i would worried about reading something from a friend that I might mis interpret like “how was work” and him replying “really good, not too busy, got pizza” (he works with her a couple of days a month) and I would then be thinking “was it a good shift cos she was on” and such like.

If you are having concerns about the messages, that needs addressed with or with out access. It is easy enough to hide things if someone wants to, second phone etc.

I dont know his because he only has a work phone and hes in a "high security" job.
He has been told mine, however whether he remembers it is another question

I know his and he knows mine. It means absolutely nothing to either of us though.

Yes, we know each other's.
No concerns about snooping on either side - neither of us have anything to hide, but neither would invade each other's privacy in that way.
Usually it's a case of "gimme your phone, I've left mine upstairs" and can't be arsed to move off the sofa to get it to order off Just Eat 🤷🏻‍♀️ Or as a PP said, if a message comes through when driving etc.