Cheated on ex with a prostitute

[GreenPillows]

Is this a red flag for you?

I’ve known this guy a couple of months and it’s all fairly intense but he’s lovely and things seem easy and right.

We were having one of those disclosure conversations though and he told me he cheated on his ex wife with prostitutes. He said he told her in the end and it led to them breaking up. He wanted me to know because he didn’t want secrets and that it would never happen again.

I feel really odd about it. How would you feel?

Red flag? I don't know, maybe. But it's not something that I could get past in a relationship. If you can then go for it. But if you don't think you can, you're not by any means alone, weird or unreasonable to end your relationship with him. It is good he was honest, but if its something he felt needed to be disclosed, then he probably expects it's something you may have a problem with.

Just wanted to add that people have different sexual proclivities and it's important in a relationship that you're on the same page there. I mean it's really no different that someone telling you about any other sexual "thing" they have or do. Sometimes it's just not something acceptable to you. It doesn't make you judgmental or wrong.

Nice work. It would have killed it for me too.

Well done for ending it.

You might want to get an STI test.

It would be a deal breaker for me.

Once a man has crossed that line and purchased sex it becomes normalised to him. The fact he was doing it while married too would have red flags flying.

Well done for getting rid. You’ve saved yourself heartache and potentially getting an std.

Well done OP! I was with someone who had cheated on his wife with prostitutes, I wish I had walked away! And regarding Hailey's comment yes it is worse than any other sexual thing someone might tell you they like, because of a) the cheating and b) the sexual exploitation and treating women as commodities. All this tells you a lot about a person's character, hardly the same as saying he likes whipping out the handcuffs. In my case he of course cheated on me in the end and was incredibly callous about it.

Vile. I could not be with someone who’s paid for sex or anything sexual for that matter. Most of these poor girls don’t do it out of choice either. Don’t even go there with the bastard! Hopefully he can realise how disgraceful he has been.

Glad you grabbed the bull by the horns OP and ended it.

I imagine it wasn't easy for you, but you know you've done the right thing