Come and tell me about the love of your life...

[bodgersmash]

In amongst the relative doom and gloom on the Relationships board, I want some happy stories to give me some hope after a crap breakup.

If your DH/DP is the best thing since sliced bread, come and tell me about the great stuff please.

I'm trying to keep away from my ex and focus on the fact that much happier relationships do exist and one is out there for me one day, to stop me from going back to him and settling for less than I deserve.

Don't judge a book by its cover and take your time getting to know people, before you decide if they are worthy of your time.

Oh and dh loves animals just as much as I do

My cat was 16 when I met dh and wasn't r people person but as soon as they met she was all over him and they became buddies and when she had advanced kidney disease last year and we had to make the decision to let her go, it was he who had her in his arms as she was pts, dh was in bits but she was very calm when it happened

Took me 37 years to find a man I could settle with and start a life. He had seen me and my car around (modified race spec different to normal cars) He had sadly seen me for a few years but no way to contact me, then one day browsing the rubbish on badoo and up he pops. After a day or 2 of chatting I mentioned I had this car and he knew the colour where I lived and who I knew and its been a fairytale ever since. It melted away my commitment issues and i genuinely love him. Never lived with someone and i just knew it was right. He is the only one who gets me and we are both INFJs might be why no one else is good enough.

Only regret i had seen him one of those times previous and got with him before he got caught up in a oopsie baby. That's the only one thing i would change. He is perfect. gorgeous 6 years younger and body and equipment to match, I am a very lucky girl.

The man I’m marrying on Saturday, he’s it, he’s everything. He’s so kind, and so thoughtful, everything he does is for me and for us. He works so hard, and such long hours, and I’m so proud of everything he achieves. He just makes me so happy, just catching his eye makes me smile. Plus he’s one of the most honest and trustworthy people I have ever met, which is so important as I’ve had a bit of a rough life along the way.

My DH is so wonderful. He is kind, faithful, attentive and a wonderful daddy to our little boy. We met through guardian soulmates a decade ago and have been together ever since - we are now married. He makes me laugh out loud every day. He does all the shitty jobs around the house that I hate! He is interesting and interested. Soulmates. I will die knowing I have been loved by someone truly special.

Bodger - my husband has been the love of my life for the last 55 years.

My dh is brilliant. Really brilliant. He's kind, considerate and strong (both physically and emotionally). Despite being a very trad kind of guy he always mucks in, has changed his fair share of nappies over the years.

He always tries as well, he's colourblind and is an anxious cook because he can't see when the meat is ready but rather than sacking it all off and getting me to do it he always gives it a try.

He spoils me and the kids rotten, often working a hectic week of overtime to do so.

Emotionally he can find things difficult but again, always tries. He puts up with my bonkers and divided family and is always there for when I need some emotional bolstering.

I used to have a horrific job and when I went on maternity he let me quit and put the effort into my dream career which I'm now doing.

He's the absolute best and hilariously funny, has got better looking with age and I would trust him with my absolute life. Been married nearly 7 years and together for 10.

My beautiful man makes my heart sing, he is my favourite human being in all the world and my best friend. When he holds me, I know I am safe and home.

I spent half my life thinking I was unlovable and too broken to have a real relationship. I met him and he is so kind and honest. He treats me with such care, he is so proud of me and I am happiest cuddled up touching his skin and having him kiss my forehead and stroke my hair. Every time he tells me he loves me I feel like I am the luckiest girl in the world. We get married in a few months, no cold feet here - I might run down the aisle

My DH isn't perfect by any means but he doesn't play games, is funny, watches trash tv with me and phones me every day during his lunch break because he enjoys chatting with me. He's a great dad to his kids as well (my DSCs). He's such a contrast to my exH, I never realised till I met my DH just how dysfunctional my first marriage had been.

@abbey44 you have broken me...

We drive each other fucking batshit insane, it's rare that a week goes past when we don't have some kind of miscommunication/argument, we could not come at life from more opposite ends (he's a private school educated 'county' type, I'm in a council flat in a city). Our setup is... complicated (both separated, both with DC from previous relationships). He cheerfully admits to being an icily aloof emotional cripple, whereas I'll laugh/cry/lose my temper at anything. There's a significant age gap. He doesn't help around the house, we keep our lives very separate for the sake of the DC, we don't get to spend time alone very often.

But I couldn't love him more. We just 'got' each other from the very first conversation we had. It was like a light going on in my head. Our paths cross via work occasionally, and we can be having three separate conversations simultaneously, but separately. He was mad busy a few weeks ago and I said 'I'll understand if you're not in touch, I know you're busy & probably won't have the time to even think of me' He said so simply 'I don't have to think of you, because you're always with me in my head, always speaking to me.'

We just saw something in each other & it would never work for anyone else, but we couldn't be who we are without each other.

In truth, whilst I love my DP, our son is the true love of my life. After 4 ivf’s and lots of disappointments i finally had a baby. DS is our sunshine and my life in enriched because of him. He is loving, funny and quirky but needs a telling off now and again!

My DF (fiancé! We got engaged two weeks ago) is the most amazing man I’ve ever met.

He’s the whole package, it kinda astonished me when I met him that someone so wonderful could exist. I’m not exaggerating when I say that when we first met I realised he was hands down the most beautiful man I’d ever laid eyes on, in real life or otherwise, yet he’s so humble with it. He’s 6ft 2, long black hair, caramel skin, green catlike eyes with thick shiny eyelashes, he’s so beautiful he stops me in my tracks sometimes. It’s a running joke at his workplace how many times he gets hit on each week by families of patients, admiring glances from the nurses and HCAs (he’s a doctor) but you’d never know it to speak to him. He’s not big headed at all.

He’s the smartest person I know, when we met I was 28 and he was 24 yet I was taken aback by his intelligence and couldn’t figure out how someone so young could know so much. He always teaches me still about history, geography, things I find interesting but know little about, and he always wants to listen when I’m telling him stuff about things I know about that he doesn’t. He graduated from medical school the year after we got together and I’m so proud of how hard he works, it all seems a bit abstract to me cos I only hear of his day when he comes home and I find it amazing he gets to save peoples lives but now and then I see him in action. Like this weekend we were walking around and saw a lady who’d had a fall on the street, there were a couple of first aiders there and someone calling for an ambulance but he went over and got stuck in and took control over the situation reassuring her and checking she wasn’t hurt and giving the ambulance the right information while holding her hand and wiping the blood off. It brought tears to my eyes to see how he is with patients, he’s so caring and there’s no ego or power, I’d be so thrilled if I had to go to hospital and he was my doctor cos he really listens.

He’s so mature for his age and a breath of fresh air compared to previous boyfriends, when we met and he was only 24 I told him I was ready to start a family in a few years and if that didn’t fit with his plans that’s cool but we should be upfront as I’m not getting any younger and I don’t want to settle down unless it’s got a future, he said he wanted the same things. And actually put his money where his mouth is: after a year we discussed when to try and settled on 2.5 years into our relationship, so he started us saving money really consistently each month so we could be homeowners before a baby, we just moved in last week to our first property! I have health issues that make sex difficult and leave me in a lot of pain and even though he has a high sex drive and our sex is off the charts (I’ve never had such an amazing shag haha) he never makes me feel bad when weeks go by without it, he just strokes my back and brings me pain relief and water and tries to take my mind off it. We’re expecting our first baby at Christmas and there are so many things about him that make me believe he’ll be the best possible dad I could have chosen for my children, it feels incredible to know I’m carrying a baby that’s a blend of the two of us and to be so secure and safe and feel so calm knowing whatever happens the baby and I are in safe hands with him.

He’s so generous and cares so much about his family, he’ll send them money if he can afford it and they’re struggling and spends a lot of time speaking to them supporting them with their problems. When we got engaged a couple of weeks ago he took me to our first date coffee shop three years to the hour from when we first met, proposed in the queue then took me upstairs where he’d gathered thirty of our friends and family to surprise me and celebrate. We’re joking about having a shotgun wedding as we’d both like to be married before the baby is born (we started planning the day after we got engaged haha) but he told me later on he always knew he’d propose on our three year anniversary whether we’d been lucky enough to fall pregnant straight away or not. It’s important to him and I and we have that security and stability as a family before the baby comes, that we all share one name, and that me going part time won’t leave me in financial trouble as the years progress and he’s so keen to share everything he has with me, I have so much respect for him for saying ‘right, I love you, we’re having a baby, I want us to be married so let’s crack on and set a date within a few months’ when he’s only 27, which seem

He's just a great guy who makes me laugh and we just click. We can sit together and watch films, go out and hike or take the p**s out of each other playing computer games. We're a pair of nerds and I would not have it any other way.

Growing up I was always told by my adoptive parents 'No one will ever love you. How can anyone love you.' After years of believing it I know now that's wrong. I love cuddling up to him at night and laugh when hes pulling faces at me as he goes to work. (I do the same to him)

You know you deserve better. Enjoy being single for abit and you'll meet the right person :)

Oops! Seems unusual from my experience of relationships and seeing friends’ relationships, it seems like hens teeth a man in his mid twenties being so ready for and actively working towards commitment like children and marriage. He’s just the best. We have so much fun and so many in jokes. He loves me so much and shows me every day. He lays and reads to the baby through my belly. I’ve never felt such a sense of peace. I had depression when we met and in a lot of ways I think most men should have ran from me, I was hard work even though I was trying my best to recover. But he didn’t judge me and stuck with me and saw something in me and us that j didn’t expect. I’ve dealt with a lot of loss and it scared me to be vulnerable again and open myself up, but as the past three years have progressed I realise I am actually all in with him, I want to be with him forever and I don’t feel any doubts at all about the baby or marrying, I can’t wait. I just never knew relationships like this or men like this existed. He’s just amazing, and I feel so lucky. I feel so thankful that my baby gets to have him for a father.

I don't know if this will make you feel good or not but here goes! I live with my best friend, I love them flaws and all, I want to be a better person for them, I wake up every day and even if I'm black and blue from fighting against the world I keep going for this person; I'm excited to see what we can be together, who we can be for each other, and I know we will always have each other's backs. And that person is me.

Lovers come and go, some people are here for a good time and some are for a long time, but I choose people who bring as much to my life as I feel I can bring to theirs. Sometimes they bring pain too, but that's the humanity of it all. I would have been here not all that long ago telling you how perfect the father of my children is, how he's a "feminist", how he supports me day in day out and how transparent and dependable he is. But he wasn't. But it doesn't matter. Loving another comes and goes; no doubt it will come again, and if it goes again then so be it. I will never let myself down and I will never stop loving me. Whether love lasts a week or for the rest of my life it will only last as long as it builds both of us up. And when it doesn't my love for myself will win out and on I will go with just the company of me. And that will be just fine.

I promise you, there is hope for you!

I thought I would marry my childhood(ish) sweetheart. But no, his mum ruled the roost and she made him choose between me and her (weird!). We broke up at 17, I thought my life was over.

Fast forward a few months and after making him jealous and playing with fire (sleeping with someone he hated!) I was 17 and pregnant!
This arsehole turned out to be a violent drug addicted knob head who sucked the absolute life out of me... I was then 18, single with a newborn.

I genuinely thought life was never going to be the same and that ALL men were assholes. My friend signed me up to POF (Lol I know!). Where this guy messaged me (every guy on there was a knob!).. I wasn't too into it but I was intrigued. He was in the RAF and deployed in Afghan at the time so we couldn't meet and could only exchange messages when he was able to get onto a computer. We talked for a few months, then when he got back he text me something stupid like 'I just got home and I am coming to see you now!'. I was home, midday in my pj's after being up all night with my baby.. I laughed and said I was at the park, such a lie. He asked where it was and that he was driving to see me... Oops!! I got up as quick as I could, threw up my hair and put on yesterdays clothes.. made it to the park as quick as I could and that was that. The rest is history. We both fell in love, moved miles to be with one another and are just about to celebrate our 6th wedding anniversary and almost 8 years together. We have an amazing life and I couldn't ask for more. He communicates, is open and honest, doesn't hide his phone, doesn't smoke or drink alcohol, has a career and is such a family man.

I promise you, there are some that have been brought up to worship the women they marry and treat them like queens, its just unfortunate you have to kiss a few frogs first!!

I feel very lucky to have met my current partner. Having gone from a toxic marriage to a toxic relationship I was beginning to think things weren't going to ge better. We have only been together a year but he is so laid back and drama free. Does what he says, hasn't ever let me down (after 2 relationships of constant let downs I cannot tell you how amazing this feels) I am early 30s and he is early 40s so it would be easy to say we wish we met each other sooner but things work out as they are meant to and I am glad we are together now!

My partner is the best!
We didn’t have a very promising beginning, in that we were friends with benefits who got pregnant 4 months after starting a proper relationship. But he’s the best dad to our little girl, it makes my heart melt to see them playing together. He always makes me feel safe and loved, but also takes the absolute piss out of me constantly which I love xD We’re best friends

The love of my life was my husband.
We were high school sweethearts, best friends and he was my first.
Kind, clever, funny, everybody loved him. I married him 6 years into our relationship. He passed away only 4 months later, but even today, nearly 10 years after loosing him I still think he is and will always be the love of my life.
Everything that I've accomplished in life is thanks to him and how wonderful our relationship was.
I know it would be very hard to find that again, but I'm hopeful 🤗

I was widowed in 2012. Last year I ventured into OLD. That was very interesting but in August I met an amazing man. He is kind, generous, funny, caring, and dependable. It's my birthday today and I got lovely earings and we are going to dinner tonight. I fell in love with him during the first week of our relationship. He's a keeper.

I met and married my husband within 3 months of meeting him
We will be married 20 years this summer
What helped. No desire to have kids between us ( he had 2 and I had 1 ) that was enough they were 4 5 6 so out of the baby stuff and all got on
When the kids were young he kept a separate flat where he could have them overnight so they always got one on one time with there dad
Mainly Separate finances
Separate holidays I’m quite happy to go on my own. Or with my own DC or friends
Fantastic sex from the beginning which is still fantastic and a willingness to be open with each other about what we like and don’t like
He’s kind to people and animals he’s been great with my mum and dad over the years as they have got older and more difficulty
He’s my best mate and always makes me laugh with his stupidness
I don’t know how he puts up with me as I can be a right lazy and mouthy cow
He’s looked after me when I was I’ll for several months

If I lost him I would honestly want to stay single because I don’t think anyone could fit in his boots