Come and tell me about the love of your life...

[bodgersmash]

In amongst the relative doom and gloom on the Relationships board, I want some happy stories to give me some hope after a crap breakup.

If your DH/DP is the best thing since sliced bread, come and tell me about the great stuff please.

I'm trying to keep away from my ex and focus on the fact that much happier relationships do exist and one is out there for me one day, to stop me from going back to him and settling for less than I deserve.

@bodgersmash he's a friend of a friend. The date was a set up!

Met him when I was 17 - had a short relationship but circumstances came along and we broke up. Went our separate ways, both got married , had kids, divorced.

Fast forward 24 years, he decided to write his memoirs so he was contacting people from his past . Rang my old number, bingo ! My nephew was living in the old family home and gave him my email address.

We chatted for nearly a year, then I flew to see him. Met at the airport, we've never been apart since that day. Went to a hotel and never came out for a week . He packed up his car with his meagre belongings and came to live with me. We've been together for 15 years, married for 10.

He's like the other half of me - we think alike, love the same things, have the same hopes and dreams. He cares for me in every way, always thinks of what I'd want, what would be a nice thing to do for me. I love him dearly and he loves me. We're the loves of each other's lives.

My dh is my soul mate, he's funny, kind and caring he loves to cook as well so I get a lot of lovely meals and he would do anything for me and vice versa

He makes me very happy

My husband. He is really hot but has no idea or arrogance. He makes me a packed lunch each day and sometimes I find a surprise choc bar. He was happy if I worked, if I was a SAHM, when I spent years retraining and wrote essays every night. He helped me raise two girls, one of whom yelled at us for 15 years. He fixes EVERYTHING and helps everyone. He is the kindest person I ever met. And he binges shit telly with me. I nearly divorced him five years ago but we tried for the kids and I fell back in love with him. Marriage is so hard!!! But I'm pretty happy :)

I'm about to marry my favourite person.

He's kind, loving, and sensible. He's at the top of a skilled and emotionally demanding profession, and deals with everything else as competently, conscientiously, and intelligently as he does his job. He listens well and observes well. If something is bothering him, he'll be straightforward about it. He's fun to cook with, fun to wash dishes with, fun to go to sleep with and wake up with and everything in between. He's considerate to everyone including animals, and he's stellar with my occasionally trying relatives. He can start and sustain an interesting conversation with anyone at all. He's witty! And his smile lights up his whole face.

We were friends when we were very young, then when he was ten his family he moved away. Decades passed; we lived on (several) different continents but never lost touch with each other. I won't tell the whole story now but here we are and it's glorious.

Don't go back!
My loml and I are in our 50's but we're like teenagers. We have such a laugh, he's so supportive and affectionate. The most romantic and loving relationship I've ever had and he tells me how beautiful, sexy etc I am. He is also loyal and I trust him 100%.
We do lots together and always have a holiday to plan/look forward to together. I feel so lucky.

My husband.

He is also 'That’d be my husband. He’s lovely. Best thing about him is his integrity. He never plays games, does what he says he’ll do, and has never once let me down.

He’s great.' as said before by someone else.

He also has looked after me, and helped me recover from serious illness, is an amazing husband and father.

We originally dated as late teens for three years, and went our separate ways for work. Twenty five years later, with two disastrous relationships under our belts and we met back up and married.

DO NOT GO BACK. I had a 10 year abusive marriage (think broken bones, marital rape etc) and then a 3 year awful on/off relationship that I posted about many times on here. He was emotionally void, financially awful and an addict. I never even liked him that much.

I'm now with my soulmate and I feel like I've woken up from a 15 year coma. I was dead inside but my dp, (who is no doubt at all 100% the love of my life and has been since I clapped eyes on him) has made me realise that I'm a good person. He's a good person and he's made me be a better person. There's no conflict for me psychologically to be with him. It feels easy, right and most of all I feel normal. I can function and experience joy. He allows me to do that as his ego and his masculinity isn't the most important thing to him. We respect each other and nothing can beat that. That respect makes love feel good. Not painful or dramatic or angsty. Just good. You deserve that OP. Don't go back

@bodgersmash don't go back!

I was with exh for 12 years, we never had a "bad" relationship but from the get go was riddled with lies and explosive arguments and nastiness, which was then mixed in with getting on so well and having so much fun, I could never tell him if something was wrong because everything I said about anything was taken personally and it was just a very difficult relationship (I wound him up too!)

Fast forward I eventually left and then met someone new, and I couldn't (still can't) believe the breath of fresh air being with him is! He's wonderful and I feel happy and loved and calm and free from the anxieties I'd felt for years, he's trustworthy and open, so hardworking kind and understanding, always knows how to act and what to say to help me feel better if something is wrong, and I feel like I can fully be there to understand his needs as well, we just get each other and work, it's not something I've ever experienced before!

Loyal, trustworthy, completely involved in my life.....also a bit of an annoying twat lol. Love him anyway!

My fiancé is the kind of person who would do anything for anyone. He's selfless and a caring, devoted father to our child. He is funny and hard-working.

He always tries so hard to help me even after a long shift in a very busy and pressurised job e.g. getting the washing in and helping with the cooking all without ever needing me to ask. I love him.

Until 18 months ago I would have said my ex husband but that turned out to not be the case, for him at least. I don't think I'll ever feel the same way I felt about him but then I probably won't let myself.

I actually don't think I believe in one love of your life any more. I think you can fall in love more then once and each time is slightly different and you cherish/remember different things about that love.

So now, the loves of my life are my children. They can do anything and I will love them and no man will ever come before them. They make me happy, proud and feel loved every day (even when they are stroppy so and so's).

I love my Jellycat Mammoth. He is lovely.

Can I have one of your husband’s please? Lol. Mine certainly isn’t like any of these. So lovely to see people so happy and in love!

I was 19 it lasted 6 weeks, I'd known him years. Dodged a bullet I think, he was far too good looking and had lots of female attention. I saw him on a street a couple of years later, pushing a pram, his face was priceless, he saw me walking out of a business that bore my then surname and there were quite a lot of lorries on that street, also with my surname on them. I'd never told him my Dad my had businesses.

I was with ex for 20 years, married for 14, and although we didn’t have a bad marriage as such, it wasn’t great. We had two amazing kids, but about four years before our marriage ended he kind of ‘checked out’ and became more of a bystander. We separated in November, and in February I happened to find a load of photos that had downloaded onto my computer from his Whatsapp, of a woman that he used to work with, in her underwear. I’m only guessing (I won’t ask, because at this stage I don’t care), but I’m assuming they had some sort of affair around the time that he stopped being involved in our marriage/family life. Those last four years of our marriage almost destroyed me, but thanks to support from friends and family, I pulled it together and am all the stronger for it.

In February I decided to try OLD, just for a laugh and something to do really, but I met someone who I felt a connection with from the first time we met. Never felt anything like it before. It’s like he’s the other half of me, or like he can really see me or something. I’ve never believed in things like soulmates, but we have this connection that I can’t explain. We’re very similar in some ways, but very different in others, but in a sort of complementary way, rather than a clashing way, if that makes sense. I never intended to meet anyone so soon after the end of my marriage, but I can’t unmet him now. And I wouldn’t want to 😊

Mine is rather. . . Unique and wouldn’t be for everyone

He works in the city in a testosterony environment yet is often late for work because he spotted a bumble bee that needed saving.

I oftenneed to remind him to do every day things like wear suncream and drink water in the heat.

He drives me crazy through his poor attention to detail but also comes up with wonderful ‘big ideas’. E.g he will plan over the top dates that always have at least 1 backup plan in case of weather etc but won’t think through that if he brings me flowers at the beginning of a boiling hot day full of activities in London, I then need to carry them round all day and they will die.

He looooves ducks!

He treats our cat like a princess so I dread to think how spoilt any future kids of ours would be!

My friends and family genuinely question how he functions on a day to day basis and yet also somehow manages to be very successful. They also love him for how much effort he puts into everything. He is all heart.

My husband is wonderful. Loyal, kind, caring, reliable. He is always calm and reasonable (even when I'm not). He's good company and supports me in whatever I'm doing. There are lots of good men out there.

My Dh and I met at 23 and had a bit of a When Harry met Sally situation for 13 years. We have been married for 20 years and I ache when he is not here. He is the kindest, wittiest and (still) most attractive man I have ever met. It so easily could have not happened and it still seems slightly miraculous to me. Don't settle for less OP, It will happen.

My DH drives me nuts at times, messing up places I've just tidied and procrastinating. BUT he's also the guy who got up at 2am on Christmas morning to wrap up random 'gifts' he found around the house after I'd told him I was sad that I had nothing to open the next morning.

He printed off a homemade gift voucher for a new handbag and regifted boxes of After Eights that had been lying in the cupboards for weeks, bless him!

I had a 'love of my life'. I was besotted, life was wonderful, we had such a good relationship with lots of laughter, understanding, communication etc.

Sadly, I was not the love of his life and he left.

I now have an unsatisfactory, semi-detached relationship with someone else who is a decent guy but not someone I want to live with or spend too much time with. But I am happier than I've ever been, alone in my house with my dog.

There is life after losing 'the love of one's life' and it's not always worse.

My dh is the kindest man I've ever dated. He has so much integrity and he adores me.

Don't go back to your ex op

I met the love of my life when I was 16 and he was 17. We were together for five years and he asked me to marry him, but my parents disapproved of him, said he'd break my heart, and in those days, you did what you were told. Anyway, life moved on, he met and married someone else, and eventually so did I, though I never forgot him. Many years later, and after my second divorce (oh, the irony) he found me on Friends Reunited; he was separated by then and said he'd always wondered what might have been... It was like picking up where we'd left off, and though we lived at opposite ends of the country, we managed to make it work. When my children had grown up and left home, the plan was that I'd sell my house and move to be with him, at last. The day I accepted an offer on my house was the day I found he'd died suddenly from a heart attack. The last conversation we'd had was him telling me how much he was looking forward to being together and how I'd always been The One for him. To be so close to the happy ever after I'd always dreamed of and have it all fall apart has been really hard, but I have so many very happy memories. I don't think I'll ever feel like that about anyone ever again, and can't imagine there'll ever be anyone who'll love me like he did. Life can be so cruel sometimes...

I thought I'd found the love of my life. But nope!
After 15 years he cheated and that was that.
He's turned into a right knob-head!

Then I thought I'd found another.
Nope!
Porn addict.
Flirting with every woman.
Cheating.

So now I really HAVE found the love of my life.
My beautiful puppy. She's so cute. Loyal. Does as she's told and loves me unconditionally!

My husband is the most funny, sweetest, thoughtful, loyal, man I could ever have hoped to meet. I was nearly at the point of giving up on ever meeting the love of my life. I went on a blind date with him, just to try to move on from a bad relationship that I kept going back to.
I never expected to meet anyone special.. Yep, I got away from that bad relationship! Stay single unless you meet someone lovely. You are so very worth it!