If you're estranged from your parents, how long have you been estranged for?

[Brownwool]

I'll set the ball rolling. I've been estranged from my father for 36yrs & my mother, something like 13/14yrs - I lose count.

Only 21 months for me.....but it has been worth it!

14 years with dad, considering it now with mum. Can't seem to make that final decision!

Nearly 22 years
Don't regret it

Not spoken to my dad for 6 years and I'm so much better off. Still in touch with my mom on a daily basis but they didn't get married thank God!! She dodged a bloody bullet there.

That sperm donor person,who I am not to call my parent any more.
5.5 years

My DM divorced him a long time ago and we texted earlier today.

Dad, nearly 4 years. No regrets.

Mum, 11 years. Got back in contact last year. Nightmare. Going NC again.

I haven’t seen my mum or any of her family since I was 17, there choice not mine. I haven’t seen any of my dads family in 8 years, I very very occasionally hear from my dad, but I haven’t seen him in a very long time.

I stopped talking to my dad when I was 16. Saw him at my brothers funeral when I was 25, and once soon after in an attempt at reconciliation, but he was totally uninterested, so haven't spoken to him since then. I'm now 43.

Mother 10 years

My father well I see him about twice a year but he’s very disinterested in our lives really

9 years and I will never speak to them again
In fact I’ll do doing cartwheels when my mother dies
My father-I’ll be in pieces but he choose her over me and his grandchildren

Mother. 3 blissful years and my father, well he’s never really been in my life but we speak on the phone for ten mins, once a month like we have done since I was ten and my parents divorced. I’m 43 and a grandmother myself. I can’t imagine having never met my grandchild or missing out on my child’s life in the way they have and continue to do. It’s just very sad

Recently: I stopped contact with my mother at the end of last year. My daughter has contact with her though.

Must be well over a decade now with DM still get the odd nasty letter which OH opens reads a bit says something unprintable and bins. He does not expect me to deal with it.

I've not had a conversation with my mother since 1985. There has been a few letters over the years regarding demands to see my DC's which have been rebuffed politely with a NFO (now fuck off). I have had her verbally rant at me twice over the years (at brother's wedding in 1999 & birthday party in 2001) so now avoid going to similar events now which seems wrong as she was/is an abuser as I'm the person being punished (still).
Father died 8 years ago and I was LC with him as he never believed that his wife was a child abuser (despite confirmation from ex-neighbour) and always told me that she had rights to see her DGC's and I'm pretty certain that he took my DC's to see her behind my back when they were babies.

Mum: 2 years, best thing I ever did but a sad choice to have to make and am still grieving that I even needed to do that, IYSWIM. I'm much happier now though.
Never met my Dad as he didn't want to know.

16 years from mother. I’m 32.

Not seen/spoke my mum since I was about 14, so almost 19 years.

I was a little shit as a teen which got worse when I felt she no longer loved me 🤷‍♀️

Don't think of her much anymore and I very much doubt she thinks of me either.

I haven't properly spoken to my mum in about 10 years, when I was 17, but I did see her a couple years ago at a funeral, we didn't say much to each other

Father - 9 years

My parents are divorced 25 yrs
Still see my mom regularly

8 years free of DM. Took having DC of my own to think 'wtaf, that is NOT right' about so many things she did. Such a relief to just pretend she doesn't exist.

2years, 2 months and 13 days

I don't regret it but I do deeply miss the relationship we ought to have had

5 years, both parents and all extended family including my sibling.

It has only been in the last 6 months that I have felt the grief lifting. It has been a difficult process, but a necessary one. Since NC I have grown so much as a person and achieved so much. It has taken this distance to truly see the extent of the damage they did and how much they were holding me back.

*oh and just to add, that's both parents, all siblings and all of my extended family on both sides, except for one sane cousin and aunty.

19 years for my mother and 28 year for my father. It still hurts even though it’s for the best.