Would you suspect an affair

[champagnesuperover]

I have very little to go on but tell me what you think of this please.
So he stays away for work 4 days out of every 8 usually. He's not working the whole time he's away so the capacity for something to happen is 100% there.
He was going away to do a special event which is kind of a perk of his job but still the same city he works in for the last 2 weeks. He is staying with his Mum but out all day long. Just before he goes he asks me to wax his back hair. It's really not bad and I think he's absolutely fine as he is. Said I don't understand why it bothers him if I like him as he is. He never takes his shirt off in public apart from at the pool or on holiday. He's not generally image conscious at all. He'll have no need to have his shirt off at all at this event. Would you find it odd?
I think my suspicion is upped due to a real lack of interest in being close with me, no cuddling, kissing, holding hands etc let alone sex.
We've been together 19 years and I haven't felt this worry before.

Some men shave as sweat sticks to the hairs. Has it not mentioned this problem?

Rosemary46 He sleeps at the Station as we're an hour and half away, it saves on petrol and therefore money. Its not a job you do for the money. Yes they do still have beds/dorms and if there isn't one free he'll sleep in the gym. Its not uncommon, there's others from a lot further away.
They do have a base station but they can be called to standby at any other station in London if required. DH has a specific skill set that means this is more likely.

HennyPennyHorror Facebook is always logged in on his phone. How would I see deleted stuff?

I see, I thought LFB had removed the beds and put in chairs. And that they only worked within their district, unless they are fire investigation.

So he could easily have a burner phone is his locker and be sending two nights a week anywhere and you wouldn’t know.

Of course having opportunities doesn’t mean he’s cheating. But I’d be suspicious about the others things. Especially as his job means you know he’s in good health so lack of sex drive is less likely to be related to a medical condition.

Is he avoiding you when he’s home or being nasty to you? That’s always suspicious. They want to be able to tell themselves that their cheating is justified because their wife doesn’t treat them well. So they create bad feeling between you and them.

Rosemary46 they talked about removing the beds but haven't in all stations. New stations/refits only have chairs. You know a lot are you connected?
His not nasty no but has always struggled with empathy and never been very caring. He is odd with me, pushes away affection, avoids eye contact if we have a peck.

Lovelymooom I have reported your post not helpful, thank you!

@champagnesuperover

Here is a link that shows you how to download ALL Facebook data, every single message, even deleted ones.

bigbrotherwatch.org.uk/2018/03/how-can-i-download-a-copy-of-my-facebook-data-what-is-included-and-what-isnt/

It is a big file and is not immediately available, FB will send a notification when it is ready to be downloaded, so he will probably see it. I think you would have to do it on a laptop/computer to be able to access all the data.

Don't become a detective, you will drive yourself insane. If he's cheating it will all come out in the wash.
Maybe his back hair has suddenly become irritating and itchy to him???

Firemen like police men and pilots are renowned for it.

No point alerting him to your suspicions. It's not like he's going to say 'yeah, ok, I'm busted'.

It doesn't sound good.

If it was me, I'd look for further proof, try and catch him out in lies.

As said, become a detective. He's far more likely to slip up if he doesn't think he's being monitored.

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