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What's the point of life ?

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Emily786 · 13/07/2019 14:25

After seeing the closest people to me ; my grandparents and aunty pass away I just feel like what's the point of life were all gonna die in the end anyways . Just feel so disconnected with temporary life things. I would never commit suicide but if I was too die I would feel content because i spent less time in a useless world .

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Hirsutefirs · 13/07/2019 14:30

Part of the point is to enjoy it.

LittleMissEngineer · 13/07/2019 15:50

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EAIOU · 13/07/2019 16:02

What's your focus OP? What makes you get up each morning?

Sometimes I think we are all face with our own demise when we see our loved ones leave us and it does make you wonder what you're doing with your life.

Its normal! Hope you're ok 💐

JemimaPuddlePeacock · 13/07/2019 17:09

The beauty of being a human rather than, say, a cat, is that you get to decide what the point of your own life is. You’re not driven solely by instinct. You get to decide what makes you happiest and most fulfilled and pursue it.

For some it’s to have a family and experience raising children. For others it’s travelling and new experiences and seeing as much of the world or their country or even their city as possible. For others it’s professional success and achievement. Others it’s building and enjoying close connections and relationships with others.

There’s no universal ‘point’ to life, for humans, beyond surviving.

Having been through a dark time watching my own mother slowly die and then grieving for her, becoming estranged from the family I had left, other painful challenges, I realised my own point is that I want to die having left the world in a better state than I found it if possible. So doing good for others. Voluntary work at the coal face, a job that improves lives, doing as little harm to other animals and the environment as I can. And on a selfish level spending time pursuing the thing that makes me happiest (music). That’s the point to my life but it’ll look different for everyone.

What’s yours going to be?

JemimaPuddlePeacock · 13/07/2019 17:12

Perspective helps too for me. I’ve had awful times in life due to life events, clinical depression, loss. But loss has also taught me that to even be able to sit here alive today is an unbelievable privilege and gift. There are children who don’t make it past five due to childhood cancer or abuse. Adults who were born with such severe disabilities they’ll never be able to communicate fully or be independent. People facing up to their last weeks of a terminal illness. Knowing that such suffering exists (and that there’s certainly no guarantee I or anyone else will escape it in the future myself) really makes it hit home what a gift it is to be sat here alive and breathing when so many would give up everything to be able to say the same.

Al2O3 · 13/07/2019 21:26

Yes it’s the last thing we do.

But before then we have much more to do. And that’s what you must do. As your grandparents and aunts has done before.

The only thing that connects us is life and gravity.

AlongTheWay · 13/07/2019 22:06

I just feel like what's the point of life were all gonna die in the end anyway.

I totally relate to this. I get up every morning and go through the same old thing. Deal with a difficult child, school drop off/pick up, work, eat, sleep, start over again the next day. What is the actual point. I don't enjoy it all, I'm bored of the same old same old but it is how it has to be.

Weekends aren't enjoyable because then difficult child is home the whole two days being, well, difficult.

I'm tired of life. I don't see the point given I'll do this routine (minus school drop off when she's done) until the day I die..... Pointless.

noego · 14/07/2019 00:17

It's all about the journey not the destination

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Emily786 · 14/07/2019 22:33

@AlongTheWay I feel this so much it just all seems like a waste of time and energy . Yeah it's about the journey but what's the journey going to mean in the end nothing ? A few days after u die even your family go back to normal

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Emily786 · 14/07/2019 22:34

@noego but if you don't enjoy the journey then what's the point ??

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Emily786 · 14/07/2019 22:35

@LittleMissEngineer thank-you for that perspective I'll take it on board x

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Fairenuff · 14/07/2019 22:40

I agree with you OP. There is no actual point in humans having life any more than any other species. We are here to procreate like all other living creatures and then we die. It's obviously part of the balance of universe of which we are not yet aware and maybe never will be.

Gingernaut · 14/07/2019 22:43

Procreation of the species. ☹

babba2014 · 14/07/2019 22:44

I'm surprised at how many topics I've seen like this on Mumsnet.
My purpose in life is simple because I am told what it is. This life is a test. Whether we like it or not. It is a rubbish place really for a believer but good things happen here too. My aim is to be as good as I can, worship God and hope it is enough to gain His happiness for my entry into Paradise. Paradise is where eternal life is. Where there is no illness, no bad things happen and we can have whatever we want.
We had tests at school, interviews for jobs etc etc. They all helped us gain something in the end. For me the rat race is not what I want to get into though because I know my goal is the hereafter. I may not be rich but I am not poor. Whatever I can give to charity I give. I'm promised that giving to charity increases wealth. I feel this is true for me because I still have money even when I feel live I've overspent (on plants, not holidays, tech etc. lol).
Some people have not found their purpose in life. They need to look for it and find out why exactly were we created? It can't just be for nothing. A car manufacturer does not design and make a car for it to sit there and not be used.
Some people do not like the idea of religion because of the crazy stuff that is happening now which to me is not from religion but people abusing religion for their own means.
For me it is simple. Be good in this world, find my Creator and what God wants from me and hope for eternal Paradise. I don't excessively cry when someone close to me passes away now because I know we will meet again once this world is over.

lazylinguist · 14/07/2019 22:53

I don't believe there is a point to life, but I don't mind that tbh. We go through our lives, enjoy some things, don't enjoy others, probably procreate, look after our families. Much like animals do, but with a higher level of awareness (which no doubt allows us to feel both the good things and the bad things more deeply). We have our time, and then we go. We should try to do no harm to others and find ways to enjoy our time. I'm fine with that tbh.

PolytheneSam · 15/07/2019 10:00

It's whatever you decide the point to be.

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Emily786 · 15/07/2019 10:42

@Fairenuff @Gingernaut I wanted to have children in the future so bad but I've just recently been told I have primary ovarian which means I can't have children and I honestly feel like that's been taken away from me too

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Emily786 · 15/07/2019 10:43

I am a religious person that's why I feel like this life is useless and I just want to die naturally and go to that eternal place away from this one .

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hellsbellsmelons · 15/07/2019 11:09

I ask myself that same question often.
Why am I here?
What is the point of all of this?
But.... we are here and it's important to try to live your best life.
Do you have hobbies?
Connect regularly with friends?

Stilllearning01 · 15/07/2019 15:53

Animals can teach us a lot about life. Humans continually question things...why...what for...what purpose...what effect will my action have. I like watching my dog. For them life is not a struggle. It's about loyalty, love, their family, lying in the sun, running just for fun.
Go find something that makes your belly ache from laughing, or walk up a hill that makes you out of breath - only to have your breath taken away by the view. Feel the warm sun on your skin. Or the feeling a good hug gives you. That's the purpose of life!

Fairenuff · 15/07/2019 17:43

I think we have to find things to make life purposeful. Otherwise it does seem pretty pointless. Especially as we are destroying the earth anyway.

The urge to procreate is strong so I'm sorry that you can't have children of your own Emily. That sounds really tough and I hope you are getting some help to examine your feelings around that. Of course there are plenty of ways to feel like you are making a difference to others but I know that might be a poor substitute for you. Have you considered adoption?

UnaCorda · 15/07/2019 20:34

I don't excessively cry when someone close to me passes away now because I know we will meet again once this world is over.

But what if someone close to you doesn't believe in God? Presumably as they haven't spent their time on earth worshipping Him they are not granted entrance to paradise and eternal life?

UnaCorda · 15/07/2019 20:35

When they die, that is. Obvs.

Subtleknife · 15/07/2019 20:43

I'm sorry you're feeling like this OP. And about not being able to have children.
I'd recommend you read 'reasons to stay alive' by matt haig.
'Stay alive for other people. The people you'll meet. The people you will become.

You are more than a bad month. You are a future of multifarious possibility. You are another self at a point in future time, looking back in gratitude that this lost and former you held on. Stay.'