I did life wrong.

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I have so many regrets. I regret not working hard in finding friendships when I was in school or focusing on dating and having relationships.

One of my school friends has gotten married to someone she met in sixth form and it made me feel left behind and like I did life wrong. I should have tried harder to make friends with people, and did things and tried to have a normal teenage life and go partying and get drunk and have sex.

If I could go back in time to my teenage years, I wish I wouldn’t have been such a boring, nerdy goody two shoes. It didn’t even amount to anything. I’m unmarried and miserable. I have no children, no husband, no boyfriend, not dating, nothing. I wish I could have gone back and done things differently then I’d have someone I grew up in a relationship with and gotten married and had children with only this person.

At the time I didn’t know how important having and being in a relationship was. I had too many problems of my own and I barely had any friends. I thought I would meet the love of my life in university but that didn’t happen. I was depressed and anxious throughout university so I couldn’t meet anyone and no one showed any interest in me. I feel kind of bad of all the years lost.

It’s possible to meet someone in the future but it won’t be the same as having that teenage hormone filled love that you look back at and remember fondly. I’ll always have some boring adult relationship (that’s if I even have one anyway). I’ve missed out on a lot of common life experiences and I can never get that back.

There is no wrong way. Don't get stuck in this way of thinking, you will regret it.

There's no right way to do things. We all follow different paths. It doesn't matter. Please don't be so hard on yourself and try to enjoy life. My best friend gets married for the first time in 2 weeks. She's 45 and her fiancé is 48. They have that teenage love thing going on. It doesn't matter what age you are. I hope things work out for you.

No no no!!!

I had my dreamy first love age 15, turned out to be an abusive arsehole.

I met the love of my life unexpectedly age 30.

You are being VERY unreasonable. It would be SO LAME if life peaked in school!! Thank your lucky stars that the best things in life are still to come.

@Bigmango lol!

They say that comparison is the thief of joy. You only get to live your life, so focus on that and stop looking at what other people have. I was a late bloomer too, didn't have my first kiss til 19 and met my exh at 21. I'm now 36, very nearly divorced and have a new partner who makes me immensely happy.

You never know what life is going to throw at you but at the end of the day when you're 89 and on your death bed the only person you have to answer to is yourself. So what makes you happy? If you're that anxious and feeling depressed maybe a visit to the gp is in order or some counselling. Please don't be too hard on yourself. Work on loving yourself and the rest will fall in line when it's meant to.

Sorry but I think as well as being sad, you are a little jealous. Not a slight! I know what it feels like when you go to a friends wedding and things look so happy and lovely. I have lost count of the friends marriages I had attended and I felt the same. Just be yourself, stop looking so hard, love will find you somewhere unexpected as it did me....when I was 35. I had travelled, worked, saved, bought all the usual things but felt alone and unhappy. I decided to pack my job in get a temp one and save for a big trip, went to my first temp job and met my hubby.
Why not try a few hours working in pub/ restaurant/ theatre, anywhere really that would put you in a position to meet new people?
Don’t give up, it’s just life!!

Fuck! 23?
Oh, lovely, your life has hardly started. Be proactive. Get therapy. Put all regret behind you and live the rest of your life being happy and having a glorious time. Whether you meet a life-partner or not, a great life is there for the taking. Take it.
Look at what you enjoy. Do more of that. Follow your bliss. Really. If it makes you feel good, that means it's right for you. Go with that.

I get where you're coming from but in reverse. I met my husband when I was just 16. We got married at 25 and were apart less than 3 years later. We were very different people at 30 to 16. I'm nearly 59 now and never remarried. A few ltr's along the way (including someone who was the love of my life) but never anyone who wanted to marry me. Huge regrets about that as I don't want to end my days alone but the older I get the harder it seems to be to meet anyone and I've been single for nearly 10 years now.

A quote from my fave.. Oprah.. about there not being any "wrong" paths, you just take the next right step..

"There are no mistakes. There really aren’t any, because you have a supreme destiny.
When you’re in your little mind, in your little personality mind or you’re not centered, you really don’t know who you are that you come from something greater and bigger. We really all are the same.
You don’t know that, you get all flustered, you get stressed all the time, wanting something to be what it isn’t.
There’s a supreme moment of destiny calling on your life. Your job is to feel that, to hear that, to know that and sometimes, when you’re not listening, you get taken off track.
You get in the wrong marriage, the wrong relationship, you take the wrong job. Yeah, but it’s all leading to the same path. There are no wrong paths. There are none.
There’s no such thing as failure really, because failure is just that thing, trying to move you in another direction.
So you get as much from your losses, as you do from your victories because the losses are there to wake you up. The losses are to say, fool, that is why you go to school, so that CBS can call you!
So when you understand that you don’t allow yourself to be completely thrown by a grade or by a circumstance because your life is bigger than any one experience and if I had,
I always ask people on Super Soul Sunday to tell me, what would you say to your younger self?
Every person says in one form or another, I would have said, relax.
Relax. It’s going to be okay.
It really is going to be okay because even if you’re on a detour right now and that’s how you know, when you’re not at ease with yourself, when you’re feeling like oh, oh, — that is the cue that you need to be moving in another direction.
Don’t let yourself get all thrown off, continue to be thrown off course. When you’re feeling off course, that’s the key.
How do I turn around?
So when everybody was talking about, when I started this network, if I had only known, good lord, how difficult it would be. The way through the challenge is to get still and ask yourself what is the next right move?
Not think about oh, I got all of this to, what is the next right move and then from that space make the next right move and the next right move and not to be overwhelmed by it because you know your life is bigger than that one moment.
You know you’re not defined by what somebody says is a failure for you because failure is just there to point you in a different direction.”

so many people break up from late teens college uni age to few years later as people change so much in those years