Online dating and messaging.

[loveyoutothemoon]

It seems like once they get your number their chat becomes crap, like not as chatty.
Thought I'd found someone who was able to hold a convo and give out compliments easily. He seems so nice, wants to meet etc. What do you say to someone...."you don't seem as chatty as before, do you still want to meet?" What have others done?

Thanks.

I think their game does drop a bit once they've got your number, as that's an achievement and if you give your number out then it's highly likely you'll agree to meet up. So possibly a little less effort being made to be endearing!
I'd not worry too much about it, but if you like him arrange to meet up and see how he is in person. It's soul destroying texting for ages then discovering you just don't click in person.

I agree with pp. It's best just to meet up sooner rather than later and work out whether you're attracted to each other in person. I did online dating for few years. Even though I often enjoyed the chat, I very rarely actually wanted a second date with anyone, unfortunately.

When I did OD, if the chat dropped off when we'd exchanged numbers, I dropped my chat off too.

If they were interested, they upped their game. If not, well lots of time saved!

Thanks. I've deliberately asked this one about meeting much sooner this time as I agree, it can be soul destroying. It puts me off quite a bit when their chat goes crappy. Up until now, when he's replied it's been at least a few sentences with questions added in, today it's just been one sentence answers, to do with what I've said/asked him. In my experiences over the past years, I've found that I've always been the one to ask out, it's like they don't want to make the first move, it's frustrating. I agree that I need to meet him as soon as possible.

And that's what I feel like doing to be honest, dropping my chat off, which actually I have done a bit today because of it.

The other day I even mentioned to him that I've not persued guys when their chat when down hill, as we were talking about people online and what went wrong etc.

@loveyoutothemoon Do come and join us on the current OLD thread. We're a very supportive, friendly bunch with hundreds of dates under our belts and some with the same person more than once if we're lucky! The messaging part is the first hurdle, but I wholeheartedly agree with meet up asap. Much angst lies in chatting for weeks and having no spark when you meet. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3625504-Dating-thread-163-The-best-response-to-someone-leaving-the-door-ajar-is-to-shut-it-for-them

Thank you!

Well I didn't respond to his one sentence reply this afternnoon and he's now messaged again asking how my day has been so think he's got the hint! I'll reply now....

Reduce contact. Let him make the effort. Chat to other guys online and meet within a shorter time frame.