Hey, any advice here would be greatly received.
My husband of 6 years (together about 8yrs prior) seems to be suffering from stress, anger and anxiety at the moment. It’s been on and off like this for years but currently I am struggling to deal with it.
We have a daughter aged 19 months and another on the way and I’m really worried that I’m going to end up bringing two children up alone.
Our marriage is in a state, he’s always rude to me, swearing at me, has such a short fuse and loses at me all the time. Rather than talk heoighbour issues or let me speak he always says he can’t deal with it, when I try to explain my side he tells me to shut up and then to F* off all the time. He can’t take any criticism and uses the terms that I’m “gobbling off” or having a “hissy fit” when I try to explain, I find his very sexist. In the car the other day he was rude to me and told me to get out of the car and walk or shut up because he was trying to drive. This was all over the fact that he thought our daughter needed to go to docs for nappy rash. All I said is that my mum was coming over in the morning and I’d take her in the afternoon. He gave me a foul look and said that obviously my mum coming over was more important than our diapers welfare. This was simply not the case and deeply upset me. I tried to explain but he wouldn’t listen and told me to shut up. I cried when we got home and he did not seem to care, he still has not apologised.
Things have go far worse since then and hurtful things have been said from both sides. He’s made me cry nearly every other day for the last two because of his foul looks at me and disgusting language. He always tries to tell me what to do and how to be round our daughter and makes me feel like I’m not a good mother.
His anger is awful and he snaps all of the time. I’ve tried so hard to be understanding and have tried to help him de-stress but he takes it all out on me. I’m at the end of my tether and I feel we should be excited about this new baby instead I cry all of the time and we fight constantly. He always says not to argue in front of our daughter, which I agree with but even when I’m not arguing and just bring something even slightly contentious he can’t handle it and shouts. He’s called me childish and names in front of our daughter and tells me to shut up.
I’ve told him he must go to CBT or we do marriage counselling to sort his anger and stress out but in the meantime I feel like rubbish. We are sleeping in seperate rooms and barely speak. He has a manual job and works hard which he hates and when he gets home I worry what mood he’ll be in. I could be in such a good mood but he always seems to spoil it. It’s not good for my welfare not my daughters. Anyone else been in a similar situation?
Thank you