Girlfriend dancing with someone else whilst I'm stood there ...unacceptable?

[trytrytry]

My girlfriend and I have been together for 3 months.
Only problem is when she is drunk she checks out other women.
Saturday night we were out together on the dance floor.
A girl in a skirt was dancing next to us and my girlfriend starts trying to dance with her.
Then she starts talking to other women at the bar.
It makes me so annoyed.
I'm thinking In my head "hello I'm here you know"
I could be dressed up looking nice and she still does it.
I honestly feel not got enough.
Would you be hurt too?

I know that WhatsApp and Facebook are down for images. But there's red tube. Go fap there

I wonder if all the people saying the OP needs to grow up don’t realise they’re not a man and are enjoying a bit of man bashing or whether they just think that’s cool behaviour.

I reckon if the post was about a woman complaining about her boyfriend constantly acting like a moth to a flame on the sight of a pretty women more would be calling them all sorts of names.

I exclude ‘proper’ dancing from this. As a hobby it’s normal to switch partners even when the dances are a bit raunchy but then both partners are normally on the same page and understand it’s ‘just dancing’. Was always confused on my South American trip when women approached me for a dance and thought I was ‘in’ and then afterwards introduced me to their boyfriend/ husband who were really chatty and friendly! But that’s me being typically English - different culture over there

So far it’s dancing and smiling and talking. The OP isn’t saying it’s more. It’s hard to judge on here. Either the girlfriend is behaving really badly or the OP is being paranoid and possessive.
Either way I would end it.

Meowington, well aren't you the cool girl. You must be so proud.

I haven't no,I don't want to make a big issue out of it just incase she thinks I'm being possessive and paranoid.

You aren’t being paranoid by putting down standards op. Tell her how you feel, if she changes, good. If not, you can’t live with the bashing on your self esteem this will have.

Are you very young? This all sounds very teenagerish

Yes. I’m old and any man I know would actually find this a huge turn on and be secretly hoping they got it on and they could watch....... sad but true and these are all professional men. I suspect younger men may also think like this but I have no recent experience apart from my own kids and I’m sure as hell not asking them that question .

Where are you when she's trying to dance with others?

Is she grinding on them?

Blatantly flirting?

You say she's very sociable so I'm trying to see if there anything to be actually worried about.

@trytrytry I wouldn't personally do that when my GF is stood there.

Would you do it if she wasn't stood there?
My concern would be if she thinks it's ok to do that in front of you, what would she do behind your back?

Don't put up with it if it makes you uncomfortable or if you feel you can't tryst her.

I don't think she's necessarily doing anything wrong, but it's clearly upsetting you and that's not ok. What is the rest of the relationship like? Is this is a single occasional issue (like, you've been clubbing twice in three months and it took up an hour of your time) or a constant? Is this a symptom of a wider issue in terms of you guys having different values?

Because if the former then it's worth deciding whether you want to talk about it and work through it, or maybe let it go for now, whereas if it's the latter then maybe you two are just not compatible, and that's ok.

She doesn't make me unhappy.
I really like her,we get on so well,have fun etc It's just this I don't like.

You’ve known her 12 weeks. You don’t know her at all really. Remember this.

You like her, you get on well, have fun.

Again - You’ve known her 12 weeks. You don’t know her at all really.

It’s just this you don’t like.

I say again. You’ve known her 12 weeks. You don’t know her at all really.

Do not fall into the same trap as others, falling into a relationship that is run too fast too serious before you really know the person.

This person is showing you WHO SHE IS.

You’re not suited at all, you need to end it and move on.

@Meowington
How many lap dances from a naked man have you had while your DH watches?

OP it's only been 3 months. You're supposed to be still evaluating. Sounds like she had a drink issue along with poor boundaries.
You don't have to stick around you know.

I wonder if all the people saying the OP needs to grow up don’t realise they’re not a man and are enjoying a bit of man bashing or whether they just think that’s cool behaviour.

I wondered the same.

Yes. I’m old and any man I know would actually find this a huge turn on and be secretly hoping they got it on and they could watch....

But the OP is a woman. So moot point.

But the OP is a woman. So moot point.

Sorry, missed that. Makes sense then as I thought it was a really strange reaction for a grown man to have in that situation.

Poor you honey. Id be jealous

sneakypinky

This made me laugh. Sorry.

*A girl in a skirt

LOG IT WITH 101.*

Yum when your husband likes having naked lap dances from exploited women? Bit rose west isnt it?

I’m pretty sexually liberated as I’m sure many of us are here but meowington’s Posts are supercringe, smug and borderline creepy.