how pathetic is this?
My DP thinks i'm cheating on him, we live in a flat with neighbors under us, We have a communal garden that the 4 of our flats share. underneath there is a man around 45 his girlfriend and children. I have always got on with her talking to her in the garden etc. we used to share worries of our anxieties as she had previous PTSD. anyway her fella he's alright never really had a conversation with him he played football sometimes with my DS last summer in our garden, all is well.
Well since my partner started thinking i was either cheating on him or having an online affair, he thinks i get people to watch him, i don't know why maybe because we have a lot of nosy neighbors who look out of windows when you go out or whatever. So I've been accused of having an affair with this poor woman's fella (they don't know this) i fight my corner and tell him hes being stupid baring in mind he is about 45 with very long grey hair and i'm 25! (nothing wrong with that if that's your type).
I don't know where he has got this idea from but he says they watch him when he goes in the garden, every time he goes out he says they run to the window to watch him (he thinks his girlfriends somehow involved in this too), they drink alcohol quite a lot downstairs and put bottles in the outside bin, my DP thinks this is to let me know something because they made a loud bang.
I wouldn't say their noisy neighbors they've got a toddler so you hear banging daily like i imagine shes banging toys etc. it doesn't bother me but it gets my DP really annoyed because he thinks its the man banging on their roof to me to sign something to me.
Last night my DP went in the garden and said that both him and her ran through the kitchen to their back door to just watch what he was doing while they was smoking.
He was already mad and throwing accusations at me checking my phone and doing his patronizing little laugh as if to say i know you've been on your phone (i hadn't).
About 10pm he took our plastic recycle bin down to the garden and tipped it into the bin really loud. Half an hour later he was going on saying there's grass in his sock draw so i must be using his socks to go in the garden when hes asleep.
Then he put the washing machine on 1200 spin which we never do. it was really loud i couldn't hear the tele and he said lets see if they like that i'm putting it on again when its done (he didn't)
A while later i said i'm going to bed. he looked out of the window and said haha i told you you'd go to bed when their kitchen lights gone off (this is a different person across the road i wouldn't even recognize if i passed in the street , oh and a lesbian!) i said it was inevitable that they would turn their kitchen light off 2 hours after you said it so that's not fair. i got in bed tried to sleep heart pounding.
He was back and fourth about 4 times looking out of the bedroom window. turned the big light on once just to go in the bedroom draw to say got your chargers all ready there (they were charging plugs i didn't even know where there but he obviously did) then he took the charging plugs and went away. i went to sleep eventually.
This morning i woke him up to take me to work after i'd got up with DS made packed lunches, got us ready and took him to school (same routine every day) and he is fine and dandy, everything was back to normal and he was smiling and talking normal. This happens every single day not the same man or situation but its always around something else to do with me cheating. is he a physco or something? if i cry he asks me whats up? how can he not know and why does he expect me to follow his good mood every morning and why the hell do i? i feel like its easier to have half the day at least smiling until something happens.
My child is literally the person i live and breathe for and i feel like such a bad mum at the moment like i'm failing him.