Sharing a bed with someone who fancy's you? Do I say anything?

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I've been dating a woman for 2 months now but we are not officially a couple.
Her friend fancy's her and last week she stayed at hers (her kids were also there)
They shared a bed (I also share a bed with friends too but they don't fancy me).
The following day she came to mine and she told me she was so uncomfortable,she was trying to go to sleep and she kept touching her leg etc.
I asked her did anything happen and she said no.
She said any other time she would have just went along with it but not now.
I asked why and she said "because of you"
On the night me and her were out and she said to this woman talking to her that I was her "half girlfriend"
So basically would you be jealous?
Do you think she wants this to hopefully go further than just dating?

I'd think this was some kind of a headwreck and would hopefully run for the hills. She sounds pretty juvenile. Time to have a proper chat with her about where this is going. It doesn't sound like you two want the same things

I'm really jealous about it tbh.
She isn't my girlfriend so I can't even say anything.

So she said she would have usually 'gone along with it', so she has gone along with it, with this friend, before?

Sounds like she's stringing you both along!

Yeah they have history from about 4-5 years ago.
They used to sleep together.

So she is an ex girlfriend or ex fwb?

I would not get involved with someone who was so involved with an ex or exfwb, who was still interested and making advances.

If I were you, I would bin her off.

You've posted about this relationship before I think and it was dysfunctional then and it's dysfunctional now

She's a ex fwb
The girl I'm dating said the girl wanted more but she never and the girl stopped speaking to her.
I really like her,she's funny and a bit spontaneous.
She couldn't believe I had only slept with 6 people in my life.

Were the kids in the same bedroom?

I would doubt if something had happened

I wouldnt be with someone who shared a bed with an ex fwb. Simple as that.

If we were a couple officially I could say I'm not happy but technically we are both single so I can't say a thing.
It's a horrible feeling,I believe nothing happened tho,or she wouldn't have told me.

It's a little ridiculous to be in this half in half out situation - I think you should be brave and say you want more, to be an "official" couple and cut the crap between you. You need to know where you stand, and this is making you unhappy.

You'll be better off in the long run facing up to an ending, if that's what happens, than hanging on as the safety net person.

Why aren't you a couple yet? I think you need a conversation as to where you want this to go.

You can say you are unhappy.

You can say 'I am uncomfortable taking things any further with you while you are still sleeping with your ex fwb, who is still trying it on with you. So I am out. '

Of course you can.

I'm confused by your relationship status. You're dating but she's not your gf? If you want her to be your gf then ask her.
It sounds like the situation with her friend partly occurred because you two haven't formalised your relationship status yet. It's perfectly acceptable to say you don't think it's appropriate for your gf to share a bed with her ex. That's not jealous. It's common sense.

No you can't control what she does. But you can choose not to be part of it.

I guess she must not be sure if I'm what she wants.
She was lovely with me on Sunday.
I didn't feel great and she really looked after me.
She treated me how a GF would.
She put me to bed,got me water and kept kissing me and wanting to cuddle.
Maybe she's not sure if she wants to be official or not.

It’s absolutely fine for her to not be sure what she wants, especially after only a few weeks. That doesn’t mean you have to go along with whatever she feels or wants. As others have said - if you’re not comfortable with the situation or want things to be more official then it’s perfectly okay to either say “I’m out unless...” or simply “I’m out.”

Do you think I should mention I'm jealous of this girl?
I'm not sure if I should
She's been pretty up front about her and I do believe nothing happened.
Do you think her saying nothing happened because of me is a good sign ?

I think it's okay to say: I'm not comfortable with the idea to you sharing a bed with someone else and being referred to as your half girlfriend. I like you and I'd like to think there might be a future in this. How do you feel?

I don't think she wants the same things as you, OP. I'm sorry- I know that hurts

@amiapropermum what do you think she wants?
Also how would you take "half girlfriend "?

Half girlfriend isnt even a thing.

Does she watch love island? A couple in there declared half boyfriend/half girlfriend. It means nothing, and the bloke is currently contemplating dumping her.

I've been in your situation of wanting something proper with someone I really liked but they were happy to be with me 'for now' in an unofficial capacity. They didn't see us being together long term. I think if someone wants you then they let you know. No guessing.

I'd take half girlfriend as someone I'm seeing right now

It's her 40th next week.
I'm unsure whether to buy her a gift.
She gets a LOT of attention from women.
I just wonder why in 2 months she isn't sure.
Although due to work/kids etc we've only had around 5 dates and slept together 3 times.
We do text every day

Just ask her. Stop being passive.

I'm deffo going to ask her.
Maybe after a drink for Dutch courage