Sharing a bed with someone who fancy's you? Do I say anything?

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I've been dating a woman for 2 months now but we are not officially a couple.
Her friend fancy's her and last week she stayed at hers (her kids were also there)
They shared a bed (I also share a bed with friends too but they don't fancy me).
The following day she came to mine and she told me she was so uncomfortable,she was trying to go to sleep and she kept touching her leg etc.
I asked her did anything happen and she said no.
She said any other time she would have just went along with it but not now.
I asked why and she said "because of you"
On the night me and her were out and she said to this woman talking to her that I was her "half girlfriend"
So basically would you be jealous?
Do you think she wants this to hopefully go further than just dating?

Feic that you can do better OP

I'm just ridiculously jealous of this girl.
I don't want her anywhere near her.

It's kind of hard to imagine because I simply wouldn't share a bed with a man who wasn't my partner (I have shared a bed with a female friend but we are both straight). I would seriously question if they are "just friends"

Do you want to be:have a 'half girlfriend'?

I don't, so I would ask her to choose or leave. Get some peace of mind

I'd run. Sorry. Playing games at almost 40 seems juvenile. You deserve someone who wants the same as you.

I think I just need to say pick who you want.

Sorry OP but it all sounds very childish. All the game playing, lack of commitment and outbreaks of jealousy. It's not how a functional relationship should be. And since when was 'half girlfriend' a thing? 🙄 You need to state what you want from the relationship and ask what her intentions are. Without alcohol.

Tell her what you want. Then listen to her. Don't just let her have all the agency.

Has she only just come out or something and feels uncomfortable with her sexuality - I do find these late bloomers seem to go through another adolescence when they come out later in life? Why else would she be behaving like such a ridiculous teenager? Either way, I assume you are a proper fully grown adult OP. Can you be bothered with all this pointless drama? I would dump.

No @dangerrabbit she's been out for over 15 years.
It's me who's just came out the last couple of years.
Maybe she likes the attention.
I need to tell her how I'm feeling tho as I'm getting chewed right up.

Or, of course, you might be dating an ex of mine, who when I last spoke to her in the mid noughties seemed to think she was the lesbian worlds answer to Simon Cowell with her harem of exes around her.

@dangerrabbit this whole situation makes me so jealous
I don't really bother with any ex's except a polite hello.
I don't share a bed with them then complain they were trying it on.

You are normal and she is the one behaving strangely.

Don’t let the fact that you are recently out let her blind you to having poor boundaries in a lesbian relationship. Her behaviour is not normal just as you would not accept this behaviour from a male partner.

I would personally just give it up as I see her as a game player but if you want to give it a chance follow others advice and tell her you want an exclusive relationship and stick to your own boundaries.

Good luck! 🍀💪

You don't have to tolerate her drama.

"We seem to be stuck in limbo. What's this half girlfriend business? If you want to move it along to full girlfriend these sleepovers will have to stop. "

Just have the conversation of "what is this?"

I don't want to scare her by asking her "what are we"
Should I mention I'm jealous of this other women?

Is that you Amy?

If you don't feel comfortable talking to her about this then I think it's dead in the water surely?

No I'm not Amy off love island

You need to ask straight out what she wants from the relationship. So what if it scares her? The worst she cam do is say she doesn't want a proper relationship with you and you're not happy with the situation as it stands so you'll be no worse off. At least you'll know one way or another. I wouldn't even mention the other woman until you've established what she wants. If she wants a committed relationship then the other girl needs to stop sleeping over.

If you think asking that might scare her then you're with the wrong person. Telling her you're jealous is not the right way to go about this - you are hoping she'll reply: "no, I only want to be with you!" If she was committed you'd know it

Jesus

Indeed, @AnyFucker