Blown out, yet again... OLD

[Unluckyinlove2019]

Majorly pissed off this evening, and just wanted to vent but would welcome anyone's thoughts and opinions on the position I've found myself in.

I have name changed so this isn't linked to my other posts.

Been doing online dating for what feels like an eternity. Met some nice, and not so nice men.

There's been two guys who I've really liked. The first said he really liked me and we had a FWB set-up for about 18 months (which suited me at the time) but when I said I was looking for a relationship... well, he turned to dust! That's history...

The second guy, who I haven't actually known that long. Seemed really keen on me, as I was him. Have spent a fair bit of time together given the short space since we met online.

Thought things were going well and had made plans to spend today/tonight together and yet I've not heard a peep from him! I tried calling him this afternoon and got no answer. Messaged him this evening saying I hope everything was alright as I hadn't heard from him... radio silence!

To avoid drip feeding, I did text him earlier in the week, just a general chit chatty message and got no reply. Called him two days later and no answer.

He called me yesterday and said he'd left his phone in a vehicle and had only just retrieved it... so I gave him the benefit of the doubt after he was very apologetic.

But going AWOL today... well now I don't know what to think!

I don't think I'm a needy person, it's usually him that gives me a call each day so this just seems unusual and I'm beginning to think I may be entering "ghosting" territory and it has upset me

Why oh why do the guys I like, not feel the same way back?!

And what are your thoughts as to what I should do with this latest guy? A friend said I should fuck him off but I was starting to think we might have something good about to start...

Rant over, and thanks for reading

Called him out on it and he told me to take care?!?!

^^

He wants the upper hand.

Instead he just sounds condescending. Block him and DO NOT REPLY. Otherwise he has the upper hand.

Just move on. He's a tosser.

@TakeOneForTheBreem I've always been one to keep my options open, without wanting to sound crass. Had
A date on Friday in fact haha. But it wasn't him, who I wanted to see really

I've been doing old for a while and know the general rules etc etc... I dunno why I feel so bothered about this!

I have blocked, and deleted his number but so wish he'd try and contact me to apologise in person and get things back to how they were. I know people can have second thoughts etc but I think the way he went about ending it was pretty shit

@managedmis everything you say is correct, and I have blocked and deleted him so he can't get in contact with me.

Right decision I know, I just feel proper shit about it all tbh

Just hoping time is on my side to get over it

Online dating is fine but you have to be prolific and sort the wheat from the chaff quickly. It does work and there are good people on there, I met my wife on zoosk and we have been together 12 years. Date more people and people you wouldn't normally go for and operate a 2 date decision window (do I want to see this person again yes/no). It's a pure numbers game with Internet dating.

I have a friend that feels as you do. She is incredibly woe is me (in your case understandably as you've been let down).

There are gazillions of people looking for love and being let down. It's not just you.

It's happened to you a few times, as it foesist people.

My advice to my friend was to leave OLD in the background, live your life and enjoy it. Too many people make finding someone their life purpose. When you do that, quite often you will date anyone that shows you interest.

You hardly knew this this guy, he clearly wasn't for rude. He's a coward at best.

Get back to enjoying your life, for now alone. And if that scares you, then you need to stay single for a while.

I used to do OLD and I had a rule that if I said 'he's nice BUT...' I would just move on. No second chances. The 'take care' is definitely an end. I used to use that at end of message to say our chemistry wasn't quite right. You shouldn't have to be doing any chasing (the sperm chases the egg!). I would send one text/phone call and that's it; the ball is in his court. It sounded like this guy was seeing other women and wanted to keep his options open. You've absolutely done the best thing by blocking him. Try not to let this creep get under your skin. He's really not worth it!