Help me go through with it

[Slundleisback]

I was on mumsnet before under the username Slundle. Here's the thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3271444-Only-two-months-married-and-miserable

I was in a pretty dark place at the time and I stuck with my marriage since then. It improved in some ways (H's temper improved a little) but not enough, so my H and I decided to separate.

The thing is since we've decided to separate, things have been better. I know that's just the relief etc. but I'm really afraid I'll go back on it. I'm also scared beyond belief about going out alone, finding my own place and no longer having H in my life.

Did any of you have second thoughts after deciding to separate?

Some days I feel so excited about the future. Other days, I worry I'll turn in to an odd, depressed recluse!

All advice gratefully accepted.

The easiest thing to do is to go back to what you know, but remember you split up for a reason. It takes time to adjust to a new life. Do you really want to live the rest of your life like that? Because that's what you would be going back to. Stay strong, and it will get easier

Thank you so much for responding. We are still living together and H now says he doesn’t want to break up. Everything has been much better since we agreed to separate.

How on earth do people do this? This is so bloody hard!

I remember your old thread. I had always wondered if you had gone through with leaving.
I hope you’re managing ok.

In terms of your dh. Do not let him manipulate you into staying. You’re nearly there. Is there any way you could move out and stay with a friend/ family for a bit?

Once you have left only then will you start to feel ok. It’s hard because you’re going into the unknown and that’s scary. But I promise it will get better
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