Positive stories of moving on from ex and meeting someone lovely please!

[thegirlracer]

Hi all,

A couple of months ago found out he had been cheating on my basically the entire duration we were together (on night stands, not an affair)

I had absolutely no idea at all, totally oblivious and it hit me really hard.

One 18 month old DS together, jointly owned mortgage.

I asked him to leave and for now he’s staying with a friend until we can figure out what to do with the house.

I’m financially independent and he’s done absolutely nothing for DS so I’m not worried about money or being a single parent as I’ve done it from day one anyway.

The problem is, part of me does still love him and I’m scared that I’ll never have a relationship again and love anyone the way that I loved him.

He wants me back, I’ve said no (and mean it!)

Please can I hear anyone’s stories about how when you split up with someone who has treated your like crap and then gone on to meet someone amazing?

Don’t get me wrong, dating is the last thing on my mind and I’m not doing any of it anytime soon, give me and DS a couple of years to get a routine just us, but I know that I don’t want to be lonely for the rest of my life too.

My ex not only cheated but made me feel like crap about myself as well with constant digs and comments.

Just after some really positive stories please!

Sooper, that’s what it’s all about isn’t it? Facing life’s challenges together. I’m sorry that your ex is still abusive to you even after you have left. That seems to be a common occurrence. They try and get to you through the children once you have left. Pathetic bastards.

Split from XH after 22 years, stayed on my own for a year and then thought I would see what online dating was about by just registering, not intending to do anything more as didn't expect to find love at the age of 50.

Got a message from some bloke who happened to be online at the same time as I was - I had scant info and no picture on my profile, he just got a good feeling about me . He had had a few bad experiences and had logged in to de-reg but such was the "feeling" that he got that he messaged nonetheless.

After a month of messaging loads daily we decided to meet up - I thought he would make a nice friend as didn't feel ready for a relationship but here we are three years on, my kids (older teens) adore him and (unprompted and said of their own volition) have a better relationship with him than their own Dad.

He is kind, supportive, thoughtful, loving, just an all round great guy.

@MancaroniCheese that is such a lovely story, I’m 45 and split after 25 years, he’s with someone else already and I’m still grieving the end of the relationship so it’s so nice to hear a positive story like yours.

Although this is a slightly different story, my ex left me for a much younger woman 4 years ago and I was terrified of being on my own. 4 years on, my ex still wants to come back but after a very difficult time getting over him I can honestly say I am at my most happiest I have ever been. I maybe single but I have a wonderful clutch of very nice men I date when I want, I have a lover too which is just fantastic to have. I come home to a lovely house which is always as I left it, clean and tidy, no picking up dirty socks of having to cook or clean after someone. It might not be how you envisage yourself and it certainly wasn't how I envisaged my mid 50s but boy am I a happy bunny at the moment. The ex however, sadly is not.

Littlebird your life sounds awesome!

There are perks to him not being around. It is really nice to be able to leave your house and come home to find everything clean and tidy because that’s how you left it. Ex used to criticise every meal I made which I don’t miss. He can’t cook so as far as I’m aware, is living off take out. Idiot!