My partner acuses me of lying all the time

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Right I need some thoughts from people who don’t know me. I left my husband 2 1/2 years ago and at the time was friends with my current partner who helped me through my mum dying of cancer because husband was useless.
Now I cannot be anywhere near my ex (even though it is only to do with my son) without my partner acusing me of going back to him. Unfortunately I have kept things from him in the past because he goes mad. He is constantly wanting to kick his head in. I just want a quiet life and don’t want my son to see his dad hurt because no matter how bad he was as a husband he is still his dad.
Sorry for the long post but I don’t know if it is me being too soft

There are a few details left out but wondering if this is someone you met online twitter and then took it to in person?

This guy you are currently with is abusive and dangerous and I would leave as fast as you can. Don't worry about paying him back for furniture or whatever nonsense he spouts. Just get yourself and your DC out of there.

It sounds like you were so unhappy in your marriage that you leaned on this guy and took it as an opportunity to get out. I imagine the guy told you everything you wanted to hear as you were in a vulnerable place from dealing with everything and he would save you.

Please do the Freedom Programme. It will help a lot.
Stay away from men for awhile. There are no shortage of predatory men who can sniff vulnerability a mile away. Enjoy being on your own for awhile and taking charge of your own life.

@RantyAnty Yes it was someone I met online and was part of my friend group. If I didn’t pay him for the stuff we bought I am not sure what he would do. I am increasingly unhappy but there are times he relates back to the man I met and I forget the bad things but it never lasts very long before he rants again ☹️

I think what your son said speaks volumes about how he is feeling. He is trying to tell you to leave him and it would have taken a lot for him to say that.

You need to leave for his sake

@mymumismarv 😢😢 it broke my heart

As it should OP.
It should also spur you into taking immediate action.

Thankyou all for your comments x

This man was useful.to you at a time when you needed someone but he is not part of your future. He is tied up with the end of your marriage - as shown by his words and behaviours now.

Move on from him, focus on your son and begin your next chapter.

This new man is abusive. He's abusing your son by saying those things about him and in front of him.
I would absolute not tolerate that in any way shape or form.
Get the hell out.

Also I know he was a shoulder to cry on at a difficult time for you but a lot of abusive men see themselves as rescuers of women. They target them at vulnerable times and see themselves as a saviour and then go on to abuse.
It's a pattern.