Ex-FWB turned nasty UPDATE

[ohhappydaybutsad]

Hi, I posted a while back under a different name, then as the police were involved I had the thread pulled.
My ex-FWB who is a neighbour had turned nasty, verbally abusive, gossiping to neighbours about me, putting up cctv, damaging my lawn and garden lights.
Well today dd1 has just come to tell me there was someone hammering a stake into his garden. HE'S MOVING!!!!!! I am so relieved! Yet really sad too as I loved him so much and he was like a dad to my youngest. Taught all 3 to ride their bikes without stabilisers. But I'm mainly relieved that he will be gone soon. For 4 years he kept saying he'd move knowing I was in love with him and how upset ds would be. Now it's finally happening it's a relief. I feel like doing a happy dance on our co-joined lawn
It took me a long time, with the help of mumsnet, to realise he was yet another abusive man who preyed on me when I was very vulnerable and pregnant with my ex's baby. What kind of man does that?

Just a thank you to all who gave me a hand hold and advice and to share the happy news

Yippee! Finally some progress and a massive move towards freedom from him! Good luck!

Brilliant!
Pleased for you ... well done for getting to where you are and stay strong x

Oh I remember you OP, I'm so happy for you!!!

May the new neighbours be as lovely and friendly as the last one was awful and abusive.

I think I might have a drink tonight and cry for all I'm glad. He was the love of my life. I've never loved anyone like I loved him. Totally wrong for me but still, I'm sad for all that we lost. Lots of great memories too but it's definitely time for him to move on and for him to be relegated to the past and be just a memory rather than a constant reminder right next door.

A little neighbourly BBQ once he’s gone to celebrate

Get the bunting out OP, good riddance.

For years I dreaded that for sale sign going up. It was a source of great anxiety. Now I'm looking at it and not really knowing how I feel. Kind of meh but sad I think.

Fucking bastard has just mowed my lawn that I'd deliberately left long as I mowed the rest yesterday and he has moved all my garden bits and bobs to do so

I'm too scared to go out there and worried what damage he'll do to my things. Police again classing it as domestic so have to wait for them to get back to me. Meanwhile he carries on wrecking my stuff.

Why are you sad? He sounds like a dick.

I'm certainly not sad today. I'm fucking angry that he's messing with my property.
I feel sad that he turned out to be such a dick I suppose

Oh dear! At least you are seeing his true colours I suppose.

You've had a name change fail, by the way.

Ride it out, it will only be a matter of time before he’s sold up and gone. Don’t let him know (or show) it’s getting to you, hold your head up, ignore the twat. X

Yes I shall rejoice when he goes.
The police have phoned and said to phone 999 if he approaches me at all. He's scary. Dd is due home soon too but I'm hoping he'll have gone inside by then.

He's destroyed out little wildlife habitat and the physical border between the houses.
He's outside now playing mr charming and affable to another neighbour. Twat.

He'll be gone, and the wildlife will return. Deep breaths.

Glad you’re angry! Glad the cunt is leaving hopefully.

I've calmed down now, thank you for the replies. My heart rate went sky high and I was shaky because of how abusive he was to me in front of my children a couple of months ago and I knew I couldn't do anything to stop him damaging my garden which is what he was counting on.

And the way to win it.....is to not be in it!
Bonus! He mowed your lawn for you.
You cannot control his behaviour, but you can control your reaction.
So, as he’s moving, just grit your teeth and let him go...the grass will grow again.

I'm going to turn my 5/6 of the lawn into a fucking meadow with wildflowers. I'm going to get one of those wildflower mixes and sow it all along the border. I'm embracing nature.

Don’t forget to put a kitty pee patch next to his side of the meadow!

One of the local cats is using his back lawn as a pooping place

HE HAS SOLD HIS HOUSE! The Sold sign went up yesterday and according to a neighbour he's going ASAP as he's not in a chain. I've been grinning like a Cheshire Cat and am so relieved. I hope we get nice new neighbours.

Wohoo.

I hope your next lot of Neighbor's are kind

Yay! So pleased for you. xxxxx

HE'S GONE!!!!! He's still local apparently but he's no longer in my physical vicinity and will fade to a distant memory soon I'm sure. It's been hard having him next door with our history. I feel I can breathe now.
I started a new chapter of my life today as have taken up a career change and started today; and he's gone so I feel like this is my time to flourish now. Funny how both changes happened on the same day.
The best bit will be not wondering if he's bringing anyone home from the pub for a shag on a Saturday night. I no longer cared but just didn't want to hear it.

Big thanks for all the support all those months ago, it was much appreciated and needed