Ex-FWB turned nasty UPDATE

[ohhappydaybutsad]

Hi, I posted a while back under a different name, then as the police were involved I had the thread pulled.
My ex-FWB who is a neighbour had turned nasty, verbally abusive, gossiping to neighbours about me, putting up cctv, damaging my lawn and garden lights.
Well today dd1 has just come to tell me there was someone hammering a stake into his garden. HE'S MOVING!!!!!! I am so relieved! Yet really sad too as I loved him so much and he was like a dad to my youngest. Taught all 3 to ride their bikes without stabilisers. But I'm mainly relieved that he will be gone soon. For 4 years he kept saying he'd move knowing I was in love with him and how upset ds would be. Now it's finally happening it's a relief. I feel like doing a happy dance on our co-joined lawn
It took me a long time, with the help of mumsnet, to realise he was yet another abusive man who preyed on me when I was very vulnerable and pregnant with my ex's baby. What kind of man does that?

Just a thank you to all who gave me a hand hold and advice and to share the happy news

Been following your thread for AGES - yay! Ding, dong, the dickhead's gone

I’m so pleaded OP, I hope you and your DC can relax and enjoy the garden when the weather improves x

Hot damn OP!

💐🍷

It feels great and I slept like the dead last night with no tv blaring or drunken groaning. It's such a relief to be able to relax.

This is great news! There's no feeling as good as the one where you feel safe and not stressed in your own home

Hurrah!!!

I went out to the shops earlier and as I came back round the corner to our road I was instantly anxious until I remembered he isn't here anymore and I don't need to worry. I feel quite sad though. I loved him so much. But this is a new chapter in my life now with a new career (of sorts) and new neighbours and I feel very positive. I can smile now about the good times we had and remember them with affection and humour without feeling upset. The sadness remains but I think there's always a remnant of sadness we carry for the loss of those relationships that had a big impact on us.
I keep hearing the new neighbour clattering about as he tries to sort out the rooms and instead of feeling anxious, I feel reassured that someone is there who isn't in a position to cause me any alarm or hurt.
This experience has taught me so much about myself and I'm stronger for it.