Cheating

[kookieMonnster]

Anyone ever get the feeling your partner is cheating on you even though you know they aren't and they've actually give you no reason to believe they are ....or am I just a mess 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

I'm a great believer in going with your gut. Unless you know this is Ann issue you have problems with....trust that is.

If this is a feeling arising because of a previous bad experience then I think its understandable to feel like you are. That feeling will lessen in time as the relationship builds. But I do believe in gut feelings...

He's give me no reason to believe he's Cheating on me it's just popped in to my head

I am a great believer in not believing your gut instinct. Find a reason why you might be thinking that and then investigate. But too often gut feelings are wrong.

HAS he given you no reason to wonder? Or is there something almost imperceptibly different in his interactions with you/his activities/how and when he mentions a colleague (or doesnt ...anymore) that your primal brain has picked up on?

Any suspicious behaviour eg funny with phone, suddenly causing rows as an excuse to leave, confused about relationship, going out and telling you at last minute? Mentioning a certain colleague? For example....just things of the top of my head

He's literally give me no reason to believe he's cheating

Well he's been on his phone a lot more but that could be anything

Being on the phone a lot more was the first sign for me.
Is there anything else?
Watching what he eats?
Dressing differently?
Hairstyle?
Exercising?
Losing weight?
New aftershave?
Out more often?
Do you have access to his phone?

This is your gut talking to you...listen to it is my advice..

Yeah I've access to his phone and I'm sure he'd let me on it if I asked him, nothing else really just he's on his phone a lot more

When my dh is stressed or worried he goes off on a tangent on his car forums... No women involved, just car stuff. I have spied too!! Has your dh got stuff on his mind?
If I point out to dh he is less available he starts talking!! All good!

We've a lot of stress going on at the moment so maybe it's just that, he's going away for 3 days on Monday so that's playing on my mind, I've a very shitty past with relationships with cheating so I'm sure it's nothing 😬😩

Agreed @ Zippy,
Those who say they listen to their gut , just want to give their bias and outlandish thoughts validity. If you don't think he is cheating and he hasnt given you a reason to believe he is , then I suggest you dont cloud your mind with nonsense that will be negative for your relationship. That said you may feel there are things missing in your relationship that you should discuss to make you both feel more happy

A “gut” feeling is often anxiety or panic. Sometimes a symptom of depression.

Anxiety, panic and depression are all liars.

All of a sudden he's going on a diet and gunna tone up 🙄🙄

Gut feelings are often you picking up on small things that add up to something going on.

I would investigate it at the very least. Get on his phone, any suspicious call history/texts/phone numbers? (It’s always worth noting a suspicious number for future reference. In a previous relationship I did this and years later got in contact only to find he had cheated and made up terrible lies to cover it up! Because I didn’t follow this up straight away I stayed in relationship much longer than I should have with a compulsive liar/cheat).
Just check up he is where he says he is etc. At least then you are channelling your anxiety into action and if nothing comes of it then you can relax a bit, or you find he’s cheating and confirm your suspicions.
He could be totally innocent but then again maybe not - as his partner it is your business and your right to find out because this (if it is happening) effects your relationship, and possibly your mental and sexual health too.
From past experience, gut feelings can often be right. But not always and like a previous poster suggested it could be more your own insecurities etc.
Hopefully you find everything is ok or if something is going on then at least you will know and will have an informed view of your relationship/partner, and can take the action/s you wish.

All of a sudden he's going on a diet and gunna tone up 🙄🙄

I woke up up this morning and decided I was going to walk three times around my local common, because I need to get fit. I’ve been thinking about it for months, finally actually did it this morning.

I’m not having an affair

Please don't check his phone if you don't believe he's cheating on you.

You'll find nothing and feel eternally guilty and he'll think you don't trust him, and it's all downhill from there.

Just tell him you're feeling a bit sensitive and paranoid because you're going away if it's bothering you that much, and I'm sure he'll reassure you.

I’ve recently bought new clothes, skin care and make up and I’m making more of an effort... I was just fed up with feeling like crap. No affair.

Is he cheating? No idea.

My dh is on a diet and exercise regime.
He wants more sex.
With me..
Who is also doing the same!
No om /ow!

So he's going away from 3 days today, ( I've known about this for a while) he told me he was going down to see some mates he's not seen in a while, but last night I saw he was texting a girl called Laura, no issue then I see he's text her saying I love you two and can't wait to see you tomorrow night 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

Well that's pretty conclusive, then.

Sorry op . What are you going to do?

Oh OP I'm sorry