1st day NC

[NoShitSherlockx]

I'm bloody proud of myself. First day yesterday NC. Today will be the same as I've blocked him on everything.

So many times I've been trying to do this and I think I've finally done it. I think I can finally move in with my life and learn to be happy!

What advise does anyone have to help stay NC? I'm trying to keep myself busy to keep my mind off of it!

1 week NC!! Feeling much more positive today

NoShit thats good to hear. How have you managed to be positive so quick?

wibbly I have no idea, maybe i started to realise it was over long before it was, I feel great today, just feel free, which I haven't felt in years!

It may all change but I'm loving the feeling at the moment!

I'm struggling today.

And I broke the silence and replied to his text on Tuesdays... 😏
He texted by the Tuesday eve inventing to meet up on Wednesday. I ignored the text, but then he called me on Thursday morning. I didn’t replied to offer him another chance. I replied just to have peace between us. Not sure how to present it now.
I’m such a silly girl. 🤢

Well today's another day. Kickstarting my evening with some nice cheesy woe is me tunes. Carpenters Say Goodbye to Love.

I’m still very low/no contact. He emailed Monday about maintenance I replied only to what needed answering. Since then I’ve heard nothing and have managed not to text him either.
It’s so hard though, he was my very best friend for 20 years and now I doubt I’ll ever really speak to him again. It makes me feel so sad and lonely. I keep thinking maybe we could stay friends even though he doesn’t want to be with me. I know deep down it’s not the answer though and it isn’t helping me get over him.

I want to e-mail him and explain why I behaved as I did and ask why he behaved as he did, but I mustn't. He called me a few times, the first he was nasty, so I ignored the following calls. Nothing since.
When we argued, which was rarely, he'd get really nasty, and he was nasty then. I miss him - the nice him - so much.

Nearly 2 weeks now. I am really struggling today.

I'm still NC. Heard things from friends which has justified why this is the best decision I will make. It was easier for me as we had no children and didn't live together. How are you all getting on today? How are you feeling?

I've been doing a good job of keeping my mind off things, but having the urge to text and it's worked so far. I do feel like I'm slowly getting on with my life now.

I've heard and no longer NC, I guess. Although I've not replied today.

Struggling today struggling

Hope I can join.

It's now been 48 days. Longest I've gone gone without talking to him. :(
He hasn't tried to contact me at all.

I heard through a 3rd party that he missed me and wanted to contact me but OW talked him out of it insisting I'm evil and will only make his life miserable

Had a few wobbles this month but resisted.
I just keep reminding myself it's for the best.

Yes join us RantyAnty. 40 days is good going.
Im just struggling with all this reading. Detective novels. Driving me nuts!

Back to NC. I have a list of why I must not take him back, and am thinking of OLD.

Thanks mikeuniformmike
10 days on NC for me and my friend has messaged me saying she’s seen him out with a girl (who has been after him for a while) tonight in town. Well I guess he’s not thinking about me then.
Well I guess I also need to move on. I feel disappointed in myself for feeling like this. It’s just I don’t actually want to move on, I want him.

Contact made today. Wrote a reply to his 'what went wrong?'. A long one. No accusations, just how I had seen things. I left out the worst bits and stuck to the 'ooh that's a bit off' stuff.
Nothing new in it but I wanted to get my point across without having everything twisted so that it looked like it was all my fault. Some of it was, but not all of it, but his twisting it into things that made no sense was driving me round the bend.
He's not read it.

Day 12 of NC for me today, still going strong but feeling horrible, yesterday was good and I felt amazing, went out last night and was chatted up by a couple of men but couldn’t get him off my mind and so I ended up being really quiet and all I could think about is that he was prob with her and then spending the morning in bed. Maybe because I’m hung over today I feel like crying again. I’m all over the place with it and I have no idea why, Iv been through bigger break ups and it never seemed this upsetting

The drink doesn't help. If you are feeling low, it will not make you happy, and you will be very down the next day.
Get yourself on OLD and do a bit of window shopping.

And don't drink in your car. Losing your licence for being drunk in charge will make things a lot worse.
Hope you are ok.

OLD isn’t really my thing, Iv heard so many bad stories and I don’t really want to do that just yet. I’d be scared to meet anyone and a massive amount of them lie apparently so wouldn’t know where to start.
I wouldn't drink in my car, I’d be screwed without my license and would loose my job too.
I just wish I knew what was going on in his head and if should make contact at some point? Not even sure what I’d say though. There’s no reason for contact, I don’t have any of his stuff to give back or anything to get off him.

I posted a couple of posts that were meant for another thread.
OLD isn't my kind of thing either, but when I had a look there are loads of gorgeous men within a 6 mile radius.
Stick to the NC. Put a brave face on and carry on living.
Think of something, that if and when he calls, you can say. Something like "Went to Niceplace on Saturday, we had a lovely time when we went there didn't we". It will make it sound like you are carrying on living, but planting a good association in his mind.
If you contact him, you will look like you are begging him to come back. And do nice things in the meantime. However shitty you feel. Set yourself some 'dares' - things that you have been meaning to do but never got round to (e.g. Landmark, V&A museum or art gallery visit or what ever, go away for a short break, holiday or day out ) and do it.

I got a response to my long message. We shouted a bit and all the things I raised did get addressed. Looks like it's back on.

He may well have been with a girl, but he may have been missing you. You don't know but hold out. And if he doesn't come back, one day you will meet someone much better suited to you.

So the NC worked for you then and you’re back on? That’s great news.
I’m going to stay NC and hopefully in 18 days I’ll be over him and stop feeling so rubbish all the time or he will be in contact and go from there. I don’t even know what one I’d prefer to be honest. I’ll plan a girls weekend away with my friends to give me something to look forward to and something exciting to tell him if he gets in contact. I’m feeling better again tonight (hangover has worn off I guess lol). All this up and down is very tiring

I think so. Not heard anything this morning.
Pretending that it is just a break and that he will come crawling back helps too.
We were NC for 2 weeks. He had been vile to me on the phone so I wasn't going to contact him however much I'd have liked to.
I need him more than he needs me but I'm damned if I'd let him know that.
Girls weekend away sounds a great plan. Have fun!

After hearing nothing since late yesterday afternoon, I texted. Got a terse reply. So now not sure if he is in a mood or just busy. I can't win.