I'd really like some perspective because I honestly feel like I'm going crazing, not posted before so hoping for some honest opinions. DH has a history of sending/receiving flirty texts (almost always with women at his work). Whenever I have confronted him, he just says its nothing/banter. He is very convincing at making me feel like I am overreacting whilst making big promises about not doing it again because he knows it upsets me..
Recent scenario:
DH had been particular moody with me over a period of weeks, everything I do seems to upset him, he has been very cold towards me and no physical contact.
I went to shop at weekend (about 45 mins) and when I came back DH was suddenly turned on and wanted sex immediately. I tried to brush it off but he was insistent so I gave in. It seemed really strange change in him so when he left the room I checked his phone (he had obviously deleted the previous history but this is the bit I saw and timings coincided with when I had been out):
Her: Hmm not sure you deserve a treat like that. What part of 'meet up and talk properly' is confusing you?
Him: Nothing, Why, Thought it would be a treat for you
Her: :-) and for you, but you keep changing your mind about involving xxx I feel safest with xxx as opposed to a stranger. Sort out a date with xxx for us together sometime.
I know it's a fantasy of his to involve someone else but until now I thought it was bedroom talk, not really serious. I've confronted him about the texts but he says it was just messing about and means nothing, he never had any intention of actually meeting her. She is someone I know and that he works with btw..I confronted her also and she was silent for 48 hours and then sent message saying sorry was just messing about (obviously after speaking to DH).
I have been to see a solicitor and told him I want a divorce but he says it's stupid/ridiculous to end our marriage and damage our DC's future on the basis of one text message.
AIBU to divorce on the basis of this one text message?