He started those stories around month 1-2, now we are in month 9. My own standards.. Well I have had difficulties in my life as well and I did not have a bubbly childhood and I have also dealt with a lot of insecurities due to it. And other stuff as well. But I have dealt with these and do not need to talk about, well at least not deliberately initiating such conversations. I have mentioned a few things during conversations, but as he has not shown any further interest in those things, I have not talked much about these.
Overall I like him indeed, but I get the feeling that he is more a talker than a doer - I guess I like the idea of him and his thoughts, but I do not see him putting his thoughts into action, I guess?
Using as an excuse. For example, he is lonely when I'm out and about without him, and when I say why don't you meet up with some of your friends instead of just being lonely at home, he says well no one has time for him, so there is no point even asking them. Or like generally, it feels like he rather would not do something, because he has lost his trust in human nature so there is no point even trying. Or he is afraid of trying something new alone, because he is convinced that everyone will look at him and comment how bad he is (like when he was bullied at school). When I tell him that is is not the case and we talk through it, he say yeah, he knows, everything is fine, no problem, no need to worry and so on, makes him look like the past things are no big deal, but he still does not do those things.
Also, recently he has changed his tone. He does not bring up those past hurts anymore. And seems generally ok and for example talks about all beautiful, funny, interesting childhood/school stories, how he played with his neighbors kids and what little silly funny things they did at school. So it's a bit confusing. At first I thought his childhood was miserable, now it seems like it was such a glorious time. But I guess it was something like, he was bullied by some during the school hours, but was friends with some children after school. I do not know, I'm just kind of confused. One minute he is really confident and ideal, and presents himself like there are no worries, but it seems weird to me after knowing all these negative things and how worried he has been about similar things.
And for example, his mother. I first got the impression that he values his mother and her opinion (in a good way, not like a mommy's-boy), has told me numerous stories how they just the two of them did all kind of fun stuff together, went to travels when he was younger and lived with his mother. Then it turned out that he actually disrespects her mother in his mind (told me once during his sad mood episode). And actually with his actions, I can see that he would rather not talk to her. Also, he has told me numerous beautiful stories about his grandmother, who lives rather close to him, how they spent so many beautiful times together when he was small and how great it all was, but he never visits her or calls to her or anything similar. Kind of confusing.