Struggling to cope.

[Greatnessfromsmallbeginnings]

It is now half way through month two since my partner of 13years left me and my twin 4 year olds because apparently he never wanted this life but it just screams other woman to me.

I am not coping at all. I've done all the wrong things. The begging. The anger. The insults and then the begging again. Not proud of myself at all. So we are not even talking at all anymore which is probably for the best.

However despite him being so horrible to me I can not detach. I am in such a horrible place and not allowing myself to feel better.

I dont know how to break the cycle and move on. I'm so distressed and I have no idea how to stop torturing myself.

If any of this makes sense you anyone please please some advice or similar stories!!

My head wants me to move on but my stress levels dont.

My god, it’s just beyond words, how can someone do that? How can his family do that?

Can he take you off the lease without your consent? You really should speak to a solicitor or even citizens advice, I’m sure they will be able to point you in the right direction.

You will get through this and be stronger for it, you will thank him and his family for showing you who they are. You future will be much happier away from these repulsive people.

Yes you seriously dodged a bullet there, what an embarrassment of a man and father and looks like his family are cut from the same cloth. Just make sure he starts paying you ASAP and don't be nice about it or try to make any agreement or deal with him. With men like that you give them an inch and they take a mile. Same thing happened to me at your age and I recovered and now back on my feet and even better that I was with the loser I was with!

Thanks everyone.

Cant wait for my emotions to catch up with my common sense.

Its like I'm surviving min by min here.

It's completely ridiculous that I pine after such a jerk.

It's completely ridiculous that I pine after such a jerk.

It’s normal to feel like that, I definitely did, but now I seriously cringe thinking about it and you will too.

I don't know if this helps but try to look at it as you're not pining for that jerk, you're mourning the loss of the life you thought you had.

One day you'll look back and be amazed you even shed one tear over this lowlife piece of shit, but you're not there yet.

My ex basically forced me and our two children out of our house...4 years later we're all settled but I don't think I'll ever, ever forgive him for what he did to them.

You're stronger than you think and your daughters are lucky to have you.

Thank you all. Such lovely people taking the time out of your lives to help me go through this.

Women are awesome!

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@Greatnessfromsmallbeginnings I hope you are still ok! X

Hey. I'm feeling a lot stronger. I can cope now. Feeling a lot worse about the ex as the nastiness from him gets worse and worse. We have zero contact now and he isnt interested in his children. I dont think I'll ever see my stuff again but ove made peace with it. Thanks for asking x

Thats not the worst outcome

Agreed.

I think you've dodged a bullet there. What a pathetic man. Your little girls have all they need in you x

Thanks. Feeling pretty miserable but i can see that I should not be with someone who treats me like that. I somewhat wish the relationship deteriorated over time. The shock of being suddenly rejected is what gets me. My mind keeps saying no way is this true. The girls started crying for him today. Which was awful. Meanwhile when I text him anything at all I just get a go away f off or delusional cn.

So litrually my only option is to block him and his whole family for my mental wellbeing.

Then I dont know what to do when he reaches out later down the line for the girls. Should I just say no too little to late or is that wrong ..