Naive girlfriend ? Or am I being unreasonable

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Hi everybody,Im a guy who has been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years now,were both late 40s,dont live together but see each-other every other day.
My gf has a married neighbour who has previously been inappropriate via text,suggesting that they should get together as he finds her attractive,gf didn't reply to his text,didnt tell his wife or blockl him,and has continued to be cordial and often asking his advice as he is a tradesman.This week she has needed a simple job done around the house which I have offered many times to do for her,but instead on Thursday she texted him again for his advice and he offered to come around on Friday and do the job for her for free,and she duly accepted his offer (she works from home so would be there alone with him).Ive taken exception to this,as its a really simple job that I could fix for her to a good standard,and given his history cannot understand why shes even still in contact with him.GFs marriage ended due to her husband having an affair,so I`m also a bit bewildered that gf didn't block neighbours number at the time,tell him to bugger off or better still tell his wife about the inappropriate text.Please help !

Frownette,a lot of people seem to be forgetting about the Wife....

I think you have to let her proceed. The inappropriate text was quite a while ago. I think some people do things like this because they like the attention and some do it as a way of letting their partner know that others still fancy them.

I certainly would have blocked him but it doesn't mean that she intends to cheat on you.

To me, you sound like the sort of guy who thinks that if a woman lets you but her a drink, she's basically agreeing to go home with you.

Offering to buy someone a drink is just s little bit different from propositioning them for sex behind your wife/partner's back.

Wish people would stop trying to make out op is unreasonable/controlling; he's clearly uncomfortable and bemused by his hf'

• gf's lack of boundaries.

After that, she shouldn't really be being friendly towards him at all, let along bringing him into her home to do work someone else (even if it's not op) could obviously do easily.

She's definitely encouraging him by acting this way.

The only thing that could be said it is a whole back and if it happened before she started seeing op; she may think the wannabe philandering neighbour now sees her as taken and won't try again (on top of her lack of response before).

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