I've just been ghosted again on text by someone who claims he's "emotionally intelligent" on his profile. Really fine about it as seems to have two sets of kids, neither of whom he lives with, and while asked him questions about his life and kids he asked none in return, so all good.
But why is it SO hard? I look fine and find chatting to people very easy. Good job, interesting life, kind, empathetic, run, cycle or swim every day. I'm not perfect but I don't think it's me, particularly. I never treat people the way I'm treated on OLD.
I tried bumble yesterday but apparently don't have enough photos of myself according to one guy ("it's a dating website LOL").
My narc ex had a profile up for the entire time we together (as it turned out, even after he'd promised to delete it, which said he was "loyal"). He's found someone else instantly (probably while we were still together, not that I blame any other woman in the bonkers world of OLD).
My sense is that there are just far more attractive interesting women in my age group (45+) than men. And that men can behave so badly because the numbers are out of sync.
Any other thoughts?