"My relationships a bit shit but I'm battling on anyway" Who's with me?

[baubled]

Anyone else sticking in a relationship and battling to keep it going even though they know they might not succeed?

I've lost count of how many times I've wanted to leave but I'm just not at the point of walking out the door (yes, standard cliche - his house, not married, got a toddler).

Forever needing strength to get through our daily issues!

Has anyone been pushed over the edge and broken away or got a plan together yet?

I've had enough, I decided so before coming on holiday but they way he's acting here is just cementing my decision.

It's going to take a while for me to save some money but I'm going to go, I know I'm at the point of no return when I'm daydreaming about the qualities I must see next time around

Hi. Too angry to do anything knowing that my quality of life will get worse. Trying to grin and bear it. I can take it all but not him raising his voice at me in front of our child.

@baubled how are you doing these days?
I'm in this boat, married with a DC and one on the way. Caught DH chatting up women online, although nothing further happened. This was the third time.
Have realised I don't trust him to be faithful now. Although he swears it's never going to happen again and he's making an effort these days in relation to home chores, more effort with DC etc.
Am planning to leave if it happens again but still feel like I would be destroying our family.
Nonetheless I have started to get my ducks in a row.
I feel like it's a waiting game for the next time he does it.
I work FT so I am not overly worried about money and I'm on a professional wage so we could cope without him, plus the CSA or whatever it's called these days says for his wage, his CS would be £500ish. I'd have to move away from our current home town as it's an expensive area if I am to buy again, but my family's town is cheaper and commutable for my job. I'd lose ILs care for DC though due to the distance from them so I would need to seriously consider work hours/nursery fees etc, but ultimately I think I'd cope but it would be tight. I haven't done the maths in detail but would need to.
The main sticking points would be DC. DC 1 is a toddler and would notice. DC 2 is not yet born so I have a while til they'd be affected. I don't want to tear their tiny world apart.
Also this is my second marriage, I married unwisely at 21 to someone who turned out abusive. 2 divorces feels like ultimate failure. Obviously if we don't last, I will be done with relationships until DC have flown the nest and definitely with marriage
I'm still thinking things through really.
I can't speak to family or friends as they'd all tell me that it was unexpected (everyone likes him) but that I'm better than that and I should LTB.
Part of me thinks that things would be better if we laughed together again or just had fun. Life is consumed with work and family logistics.

Gosh that was an essay, sorry

Hi all! Thanks for resurrecting the thread name change. I've been thinking of posting something exactly like this.

How old are your DC @baubled?

I'm certain my relationship is doomed for failure, but I don't want to end it yet and plan to plod along for at least another 5 years. Dp pulls his weight and is a good man etc we just aren't compatible anymore, age gap issues mostly. We bicker daily, he irritates me beyond belief and me him. But the children's life styles would be significantly worse if we were to seperate.

Not my resurrection credit I'm afraid! @threesecrets joined. I found it in active threads and realised I'd found my people....!
Plus @baubled's last update made me wonder how she was.

God yes!
Currently working out my budget and return to work full time in a few weeks to enable me to have the means to go

Sorry. Didn't realise it was a dead thread. This is the thread for me though. It's over but neither of us are initiating anything to move on.

@threesecrets. Do you want it to be over? You could take the bull by the horns and call it a day.

@Namechangeymcnamechange11 I decided that actually I don't have time to get divorced, move out etc! I have a 'comfortable' life so I might as well try to enjoy it. Believe me there are many times I cry silently to sleep or drive somewhere to have a good cry. I'm caught between a rock and a hard place. My parents are divorced, and honestly I would have wished that they stayed together. So I want the best for my child.

I was there. Together 12 years and married for 9. Lots of ups and downs. A very difficult event just over 2 years ago really took it's toll. No sex for ages. Living like housemates. Many occasions where he would drink and lose his shit with me. I guess I checked out of the marriage but was too scared to be alone to end it.....until I did 4 months ago. I just lost my shit at him after yet another episode of him being a drunken cunt and chucked him out. I know I wasnt always easy to live with as mental health issues but we had good times. Have been very up and down since..... currently very low and feeling so so lonely as live alone and miss having someone here and have got pissed a few times and begged him back... stupidly. Im in a mess but I know as fucking hard as it is, I did the right thing...although right now I am doubting it yet again.